last night my bf told me about the marriage i did not answer yet.i was thinking about what is good for me.do i say yes or no.give me suggestion pls.
2007-10-30 01:31:50 · 20 answers · asked by bhe22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you think your ready then say yes.and if you think this guy is good for you.
2007-11-01 03:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a serious thing dear!!!
Indeed you must think a thousand times before you should say yes!
Please don’t get me wrong. Being married is a wonderful thing and Weddings are just like heaven here on earth.
But it will be tragic if it is not given so much thought.
This is a lifetime relationship and it is not easy to turn to divorce for escape if it does not work out.
Marriage is done for the right reasons not alone LOVE… If you are smart and sensible, there is stability, security, financial matters, and most of all compatibility. Everything takes time before having an answer for this once in a life time deal.
Other’s will call it “jitters”, I would call it my 6th sense…and do some pros and cons of the relationship.
It is best to talk and wait a while. This song “Fools rush in” as a lot of sense. Better to be sure than sorry.
….If in doubt say NO.
Take your time dear… Pray and I am sure you will have your answer in due time dear.
Paris716
2007-10-30 01:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and your boyfriend? If you are not 25 yet then for sure say no since you need to think about it. Otherwise you need to think about careers, children, home, and family. Does he a have a career he enjoys? Do you both want children? Can you both buy a home? Does each side get along with the other family? Cash and family can strain a marriage.
Don't let each other make the other person complete. If so then neither of you are ready for marriage.
2007-10-30 01:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by logsdodl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You boyfriend told you about the marriage? What exactly does that mean? Did he propose to you? Is that what you're saying? Here's what I think...if English is your first language, given the wording of your sentence, I'm going to guess that you're too young and immature to even be anywhere near considering marriage. If English is not your first language, I'm sorry, but I can't help you.
2007-10-30 01:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you talking about possible getting married in the future or did he actually propose?
There's no time limit on an answer - as exciting as it is to say yes it will only cause more trouble and heartache down the track if your not ready.
2007-10-30 03:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lise Wisey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are making this huge decision based on what the yahoos on yahoo are telling you--follow your heart, girl. For heaven's sakes we don't know this guy or you--if you are that unsure about it, the right answer is probably no or at least not yet, but don't go by what anyone else tells you.
This is a decision that will change your life and you are the only one who can make it.
2007-10-30 01:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say No he may not ask you again for a while or it may put distance between you. You will need to explain that you love him but your not ready and tell him to ask again in a year.
If you say Yes make sure its what you want to do and think about how good your future would be together.
Good Luck and choose for you not for him
Flic x x
2007-10-30 01:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your first gut feeling? go with it.
If you are not sure, then you are probably not ready.
Talk to him, tell him yo are not sure, if he loves you, and it is meant to be, he will understand.
You must remember this is the rest of your life and it is a lot easier to say no now, rather then later as it will cause a lot more pain when everybody knows.
Good luck.
2007-10-30 01:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by sirod21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really honestly believe that if it is right you don't need tiem to think, but you mgiht be different, do you love him do you want a life with him and only him? Can you live togeather I know this question sounds stupid but I have known ALOT of people that love eachother but cannot live togeather and they end up divorced...follow your heart and your head will catch up:)
2007-10-30 01:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. With all that information... the obvious answer is.... Yeah theres no information about your relationship. So i'm gonna go with the generic answer of... if you dont know instantly in your heart, and you have to resort to asking total strangers who know nothing of you/your boyfriend/your relationship... Than the answer is no!
2007-10-30 01:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good God woman, how are we supposed to know what is right for you!!!! There are so many many many factors behind that decision, we couldn't even start to list them! Only you know if a) it's right or b) it's worth the risk to see if it's right.
2007-10-30 01:36:08 · answer #11 · answered by cuddles_gb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋