This is just a general question that's been on my mind for a while. Where have we as parents gone so wrong that we now have to rely on "Nanny 911" or "Super Nanny" to help raise our kids? Generations past have just gotten on with it and raised their kids without having to resort to books and tv. Never before have we had such an ill-behaved, spoiled and bratty generation growing up around us. What's changed in your opinion?
Keep in mind that I'm not criticizing anybody..I'm just looking for all thoughts and opinions.
My husband says that in years past all members of a family helped raise a child..meaning parents, grandparents, extended family, etc. Perhaps the break-down of the family unit is to blame. I think too many parents want to be their kids' friends instead of parents.
2007-10-30 01:18:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have thought about this a lot too. I do agree that we, as parents, rely far too much on "experts" these days to tell us how to raise our kids. If we really stop and think for a moment, we will realize that we have the best answers for our own parenting challenges. Parents know their children best, and know all of the circumstances that their children are being raised with. I do have to say that I personally like the Nanny shows, especially if they are similar to my own situation. Sometimes it helps to realize whats happening in your own life when you see those same problems happening in someone else's life.
At the same time, I think if people spent some time writing in their journal or thinking about their life, they would realize where they are going wrong and what they could change.
2007-10-30 09:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by carrie222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they do help?? I really don't know, because I haven't watched their shows.
However my grandmother bought me the Nanny 911 book when I was pregnant. My kids are 2 years old now and I think I have read a page.
We raised our twins pretty much by ourselves, because our families live so far away. My kids are neither bratty or spoilt to my knowledge anyway.
I will say sometimes it does take a stranger to tell you something, we don't always listen to those we love. I think the main thing that has changed is people are trying to be there kids best friends, not their parents.
2007-10-30 01:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by *Charli* Mamma Di Gemini's 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grandma here..... Ithink parents believe the kids will be ok if they are given lots of love and things. Wrong! You have to invest a lot of time in your kids and have a plan. That plan has gone by the wayside.
The plan is easy-- rules and consequences. They must be adjusted to the age of your child. They also need to be in place early.
The Nannie shows give us tools to use instead of a spanking. They also teach the parents not to get so upset when inforcing the rules.
2007-10-30 02:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very few people use those interventions. Just like very few people are as screwed up as the ones on Dr. Phil. we just think they are everywhere because they are on t.v. Than when we go out shopping, IF we see someone that acts out of control we think 'ah, they are everywhere', lol. In reality, there are many, happy families.
Your husband does have a very good point. In psychology I learned that the Western culture has shifted from the 'group conciousness' where kids are taught to put the group ahead of themselves, and obey, and conform, and the group must look good. Western culture has the focus on individuality. We teach our children to self express, to compete, and our family units are smaller and often just one parent with no other support (like mine! lol), and are made to make themselves look good, not a group.
There are pros and cons to each, but that expalins the shift we see compared to 'how things used to be'
2007-10-30 01:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is because society puts everything before the family. Today's society leads parents to believe that they both must work to get by in life, leaving children in someone else's care. Frazzeled, tired parents with too much on their plate don't have the energy to actually THINK about what parenting means. It's much easier to send your kids to a TV reality show and have someone else fix them.
Common sense really isn't widely abounding either.
2007-10-30 01:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by not too creative 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a GrandParent and have aot t do with raseing my Grand Kids because Mom and Dad both have to work. I personaly have not known anyone who could afford or want a Nanny.
2007-10-30 01:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by doc_holliday1863 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are so busy with their jobs earning money, money and money.
2007-10-30 01:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋