Does anyone have problems with their inlaws and favoritism with the grandchildren?
Tell me I am not the only one out there, and tell me what is the worst thing that your inlaws did.
2007-10-30 00:37:57 · 5 answers · asked by Mom of 2 great boys 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh I learned many many years ago to just deal with it, but my kids are really starting to notice it and wonder why.
2007-10-30 01:04:24 · update #1
Man I could go on all day about this one! My MIL is the worst! My hubby's sister has 2 kids, we have 4, but one is my stepdaughter, who is 10, and my hubby's mom has always done for my stepdaughter 100 times more than what she has done for our 3 kids, and my SIL, she has bought EVERYTHING for those kids. She would spend her last penny to buy them a pair of $80 shoes and they are only 4 and 6. This year she bought for only 2 of our kids b-days, and not the other ones. WHY? Favortism. It has pissed me off, not for me, but for my kids. They see who she does for and who she doesn't, but I just tell them not to worry about it. So far they are fine, but as they get older they will see what she has done. She hasn't even seen our kids in 8 months and lives only 25 minutes away.
2007-10-30 03:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by butterflykisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My in-laws bought one of their grandson's a car. I told my son give it time, he'll totaled that car out and the in-laws will be bitching then. About 2 weeks later he totaled the car out and the in-laws bitched. Went on and on about how ungrateful he is. I told them they know he's ungrateful so why did they buy him a car for? They didn't say anything and that shut them up.
I told my kids if they want their own cars, get a job and buy their own and learn to appreciate what their money buys. They got jobs and bought their own cars.
2007-10-30 01:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
do i ever. my in laws...well my brother in law and sister in law have 2 kids. so do we. the boys are the exact same age...my nephew is 31 minutes older than my son and they will be 2 soon. our daughter is seven, there daughter is younger than 1. well anyway, they bend over backwards for the other kids...buy thems tuff, watch them, help at their house. and we all live close together but if we need something they want money for it. if i need an emergency sitter for my kids it will cost me twenty dollars but for them...nothing...and they also supply the other babies with their milk, diapers, clothes...while i do everything for our kids without their help. tell me how that's right!
2007-10-30 00:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Kitty Katt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats the difference btwn inlaws and outlaws??? Outlaws are wanted!! Grin and bare it . Don't let them know they're actions bother you. It'll be less fun for them
2007-10-30 01:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by ez2confuze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, where do I start with my monster-in-law?!?!?!?!?!?!?
My fiance is the eldest of four children and was always under her thumb completely. When we first got together three years ago she would call him at three am and he would answer and listen to her rant and rave for two hours about what a lousy son he was and how he was never there to help her cope with his brothers and sister (who apart from the odd row with one of them, were brilliant kids and she had no problems with them). His father was emotionally abusive and had affairs and they didn't split until my fiance was 18, and she expected my fiance to be 'the other parent' despite the fact that he wasn't, he was 18 years old and at uni 200 miles away from where she lived. He would also drop everything and do whatever she asked at a moment's notice no matter what our plans were and how unreasonable her demands were (including cancelling the 21st birthday paty I had spent three months arranging for him in favour of travelling to his mother's house to do nothing but watch a DVD and changing our christmas plans which we had decided months ago, always without even asking me what I thought! When I splashed out £300 on concert tickets for our second anniversary and she phoned two days before to tell him (yes, TELL, not ask) to come on a family camping trip, I finally put my foot down. He said no to her for the first time EVER in his life (he was 21 by this point), but of course rather than putting it down to her some now being an adult with his own life and making his own decisions, of course in her mind it was because of me, the EVIL other woman!
A few days later the post came and in it was a letter from his mother. She had written an 8-page, A4 size, double sided letter telling him basically that I was controlling him and taking him away from his family, then launched into an attack on me and my entire family, none of whom she had ever even met!
She also used to call him about six times a day and if she couldn't get hold of him on his mobile she would leave abusive messages on my phone and our landline (we live with my mum, so these messages would be directed at her as well as me) and despite being told not to ring after 9pm (nobody does that in our family unless there is an emergency, ie someone is sick or dying, so when the phone rings after 9 my mum and I get really worried) she would phone at eleven o'clock at night then try and stay on the phone for hours.
For my 21st birthday last year my whole family clubbed together to send me and my fiance to Paris for a week as a bithday present. Because we had to get the eurostar train early in the morning we stayed with my nan (an old lady in her late seventies) the night before we left. That night my fiance got a phonecall from her and she was slagging me off (as usual), so my nan (who I am very close to) took the phone and told The Psycho ***** that she was fully aware of the hell her granddaughter had been put through by this woman and to leave me alone - the P.B. then launched into a massive tirade against my grandmother, swearing at her, shouting, calling her every foul name under the sun and threatening to come down and "sort her out"!!!!!!!!
Since my seven year old cousin moved in with us last march and my fiance and I became his legal guardians she has invited us to nine family occasions and yet refuses to invite the child, saying he is not part of her family. When we refused to attend any more things until she starts including him she had a strop and we will not be seeing her this holidays because she will not invite our little boy, which means that unfortunately we cannot see his siblings either and she has banned his little sister, who is only 12, from speaking to us at all.
I won't keep going on, but believe me there is plenty more where that came from!!!
2007-10-30 01:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by joji 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋