My boyfriend's behaviour at the moment is making me rather unhappy.
He treats me like a fool sometimes and I have come to the conclusion he is very manipulative. We always end up doing what he wants to do - it was our anniversary and we were supposed to go out for a meal last weekend and because he didn't feel like it we stayed in the pub watching football!
He takes me for a ride financially by conveniently forgetting to give me money for things I buy etc.
Sometimes when I go round to his house he practically ignores me all night and is messing around on his PC and when I make a point about it he always says I am "presumptious" and "annoying" when I say things like that. He is really upsetting me. We have been together a year and it would make me very sad to walk away but I feel like it's the end of the road for us. He won't do anything just for ME or to make me happy. He also becomes very clingy, calls me alot etc whenever the penny drops he may have pushed me too far.
2007-10-30 00:32:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well one thing is for sure, he doesn't appreciate you.
It's difficult to walk away, that's agreed but would it not be more difficult to stay and have to fight to be appreciated?
You can try talking to him but only you can know whether he may change. Maybe before making a clean brake you can try distancing from him and explain why. Or tell him exactly how you feel and that you need some time to think about whether you will accept this and if he wants you, he needs to change his behavior and prove to you that he does actually appreciate you.
Whatever you do, don't put up with this, eventually you will have compromised so much that you will begin to convince yourself that this kinda behavior is what you deserve and you will be caught in an abusive relationship!
It's very common for someone to take knocks to their self worth when they continuously accept being treated badly, which is what your boyfriend is doing!
Good luck!
2007-10-30 00:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like your child rather than your MAN! All I know for sure is he will always do that if you let him! This is the time to train him right. Before you make up your mind to call it quits, try pulling away from him so he will notice. Once you get his attention, use reverse psychology on him. Treat him like he has been treating you. If he doesn't understand then how things are suppose to be then, it is time to move on to a more promising relationship.!
2007-10-30 00:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the same way that men say they like the type of women that they can marry and introduce to mom but go for the "hot" and wild ones. It's just an attraction thing. And I agree with the other girl who answered. Jerks start off nice so usually the girls don't realize that they're jerks until too late.
2016-05-26 02:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by lorretta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im having problems with my boyfriend as well i love him but he is making me so unhappy never putting me first or our daughter kiera. He always leave me to do everything and always spends my money and doesnt give it back when he says he will. He always calls me annoying and is always in a mood with me.
im going to end it with him soon but i love him so its going to very hard for me to do it. But if it stops the argueing, the name calling towards me, makes me happier, then i have to.
If you love someone set them and if its ment to be they'll come back. Maybe you need a break, both of you to think about what you both really want. No one can tell you the right answer on what to do. Do what you gut is telling you to do because that answer is always the best.
I dont know you or your boyfriend but he seems an idiot. Like mine lol.
Good luck babe.
2007-10-30 00:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by HoneyBadger 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From what you said.. youve already got your answer. But if your looking for confirmation, yes you should move on. It wont be easy..this type of guy will make you feel low just to get you back. Thats a type of abuse, and you dont need to stand for it or deal with it. There are better guys out there.
2007-10-30 00:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you gotta give the poor guy some space. Guys, just like girls, like some alone time, and time to spend with their friends. Wouldn't you? But other than that, your boyfriend shouldn't call you any names like that, and especially for your anniversary, he should've went out with you! You should sit down and talk to him about this, and talk to him as if he were your best friend [which he should be].
2007-10-30 00:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like an immature *** hole who wants to have a girlfriend when it's convenient for him. I recommend you become less available to him, and decide whether or not this is the kind of guy you want to waste your affection on.
2007-10-30 00:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are making it too easy for him. Back off and let him make an effort. If he is rude or ignores you leave and go home. Set some personal boundaries for yourself and stick to them.
2007-10-30 00:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by ruby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish! I just broke up with someone like that, no concern for anyone but himself, it IS Manipulative. Walk away, it isn't easy, but you know what you have to do!
2007-10-30 00:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine Buttercup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u sure that he's your boyfriends.oh honey he's is duffer ignore him left him right now & hunt another one. Y you stay with in other words!!!! he's is NOT ONLY IDIOT BUT ALSO SO SO MEAN.
2007-10-30 00:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by MS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋