i have freinds in uni and sum outside uni, but everybody always seems they dont wanna hang out and stuff.. i fee like im lost in life.. even at uni i feel lost.
i dont know why im a lost soul, sum people say i try too hard.. its abit like john candy if u know wat i mean
2007-10-30 00:29:51 · 18 answers · asked by b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because as long as you don't like you, nobody else will either. Stop looking for others to make you happy because life just doesn't work that way.
2007-10-30 00:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are looking to others for the direction that should be coming from you. You need to add purpose and meaning to your own life, then you will relate better to others.
Find a club or charity that interests you and get involved. Take up a personal sport like martial arts, archery, or running. Reconnect with your religion.
You are at a difficult stage in life, but when you are out of school and working it will get easier.
Good Luck.
2007-10-30 07:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you are taking things so seroiusly I guess you are just being too sensitive and demanding too..Give yourself a break, don't feel negative about people and stuff...you are tired somehow too ..not only physically but spiritually...u really need a break and do soemthing for yourself..give yourself a chance to enjoy yourself too..don't depend on others too much, if you do ,,,this thinking will only frustrate u............be happy man! it is not the end of the world!!!
2007-10-30 07:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was my experience when I was in a similar situation, that I felt like a lost soul because I lacked self-acceptance and self-esteem. Plus, a few good friends who told me I was trying too hard were right.. .I WAS trying too hard.
Until I could feel at home with myself, and love & accept myself completely, I wasn't finding acceptance from too many others either. I lacked the self-confidence necessary to relax in social settings.
Once I became fully cool with myself and learned to love myself, I wasn't so anxious to gain the approval of others, and I could stop trying so hard to fit in, or to impress. :)
2007-10-30 07:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a lost soul. You are just given the opportunity to learn about you and feel comfortable with you. We should all be able to be with ourselves and feel comfortable :) Of course, others add to our lives but it is about who we are and what we want to do. Expand one of your hobbies and you will spend time doing what you like and probably meet others who are just as interested :)
2007-10-30 07:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Primrose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people have told you that you are trying to hard, then you probably are.
One of my kids is like that. He is friendly, relatively happy, but he is what I think of as "very needy". He has to have a "best friend" all the time, and feels like he has to spend all his time with that best friend. He thus "burns out" the person (or their family/girlfriend) to the point they don't want to be around him for a while - they need their space. So then he feels like he has to get a new best friend. And the cycle begins again.
I have read the other comments above. I do have to offer a somewhat different view, I am sorry to say.
During high school, I was one of the geeks. When I went to college, I was in heaven. Lots of people to talk to, the geeks hung out together all the time, we even hung out with the professors...
Then I graduated into the real world. The geeks scattered and I have seldom found them. And the geeks I have found, occasionally, are generally too busy to hang out.
So I feel like what you describe now. I have lots of acquaintances, but few friends. In fact, my best friends are my family. And they are growing up and moving away as well. So I try to make friends here on the WWW.
My wife says that I don't try hard enough to talk to other people. But when I try, it bores me to tears.
They want to talk about sports, and i can't stand to talk about sports for the most part. They want to talk about going out and partying - I don't care for that.
Even the geeks - the ones who want to talk about electronics, or gadgets, or SF and other stuff I like to read, or the various music styles I like, or the food I like, or the movies, or the internet, or any of the other dozens of topics I like to write or talk about, generally prefer to hang out with people younger than me, or they move away to new jobs, etc.
So I guess my advice is that you may find a few people who get you. Or you may not. There are people out there who like things similar to you... finding them will be an ongoing process.
A successful life includes the ability to proactively deal with change.
2007-10-30 07:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by Larry V 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The trick is realising that everyone, absolutely everyone, feels exactly that way to some degree or other at some point in their lives.
Don't worry about it. You'll find your level at some point and you'll feel more content. Just ride it out. It's part of life.
2007-10-30 07:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Bob R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure about the John Candy reference but try to find peace inside and pray on it
2007-10-30 07:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by bxx4real 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow u need to get a grip and look inside yourself to make u happy,can't depend on others for stuff like that or they will always let u down!!i suggest you find a church or counselor to help u love yourself and then u won't depend on others to define your happiness.keep your chin up!killen yourself is a cop out.face yourself head on,u can do this.peace
2007-10-30 07:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by lil pit cat 71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just at that age where you're not quite sure what you want .. even though you think it's what you want. In a couple of months maybe even years. It will get better. I remember when that happened to me. Took me A REALLY long time to settle in. =S
2007-10-30 07:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by Febrezie~! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋