OMG! i hate my mom right now shes almost got potential for abuser. OMG! UGH~ i want to run away. i need help. we have only started fighting since she got married. GEEZE. I'm 13 and need help because i absolutely do NOT want to be like her when i grow up.
2007-10-30 00:23:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
not really abuse but she broke a door when she got angry( not at me ) she bangs on my door A LOT.
2007-10-30 10:16:22 · update #1
Relax. Take a warm bubble bath, read that favorite book. Be nice to YOURSELF. Then take a calmer approach to the problem. Being a teen is really hard, espically when things pop up like your mom getting married, divorces, death, ect;. Talk to your mom when shes alone, not with your new father. Don't run away. This will only make matters worse. Talk to a school consilure (ive never been able to spell that). You are who YOU are and its YOUR choice wether to quralle with your mom or not. When you start fighting take a minute and try to figure out if what you are fighting about is stupid, like a sibling stealing your eyeliner, or big, huge. Like a friend getting pregnant...
Its ALL up to you.
2007-10-30 00:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So the dynamics have changed, running away won't solve anything but create more chaos. being 13 is tough anyway, you need to despise your mother for awhile to create your own identity...this too shall pass. Hit the books, get good grades, stifle your urge to talk back and argue. She has probably forgotten what it's like to be a teenager with all these new ideas and thoughts...patience. Start a journal, write all these thoughts and ideas down. You will be able to look back in a few years and find your center. Maybe talk to a counselor at school.
2007-10-30 00:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have four daughters (one is 13) and I know that sometimes they think I am the enemy too. To say she has the potential for abuse it a strong statement ... I hope it is your immaturity talking and not the truth!
Try to see your relationship from both sides and OWN your part in what is going wrong. Take responsibility and TALK to each other ... really listen and work at your relationship. I think a mother/daughter relationship is the most special in the world. Dont take it for granted. Good luck. x
2007-10-30 00:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by MsSponge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remarriage of a parent is usually hell for kids of divorce, so you are going thru a very hard age and then add your mom remarries. Please talk to someone, even a youth leader at a church, even if you don't go to church, you need to vent, you need to be heard. I am not saying your mom is wrong, but I know because I've been divorced and dated but never remarried because of my kids, I knew it would be so hard. So you need to find someone outside your emotional personal life, (mom, relatives etc ) who can see it objectively, I don't agree with most of what they've said so far unless they have been thru a divorce and their parent remarried, they have no clue. I was a teacher and I know how kids react to a parent remarrying. It is very very hard most of the time. Please reach out, don't try to be brave, it will only worsen your mom's and your relationship, Been there, done that. Please talk to a school counselor, a teacher you really like, a neighbor adult, especially someone who has been thru divorce, Churches run groups for the public for every age that has been affected by divorce, you might find some other people your age who can talk you thru it. It is very hard, when you really get angry or upset, go outside, I used to pretend to take the garbage out and just stand outside until I got cooled down . There are many coping skills, but remove yourself from the angry place, just DON'T ACT IN ANGER, even if you are right. angry actions don't lead to much good, ask me, I know !!!
2007-10-30 00:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by I Love Jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am now 39 years old and the hardest time of my life was when I was your age. I remember thinking I had all the answers and my Mom knew nothing. I remember thinking she wasn't cool and that she embarrassed me. I'm proud to say that now that I'm married with 2 children, my Mom really did know alot and she was just looking out for my best interest. She is now my best friend. Just hang in there, listen to her advice, and have open communication. There is light at the end of the tunnel. She wants what is best for you and her job as your Mother is to protect you. Good luck!
2007-10-30 00:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Need more information about what she did...Also at 13 yrs old everything seems much worse then it really is..Why don't you sit down and talk with your mom about whatever is bothering you and maybe you will see that she isn't so bad after all. Besides she has got married and that is a big thing for her and and you,it will take time to get used to
2007-10-30 00:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The teen years suck, even if you love your mom. Don't hate your mom because, take it from me, you will become best friends someday. You don't have to be like your mom. You just have to be you. Take a deep breath and think about the woman that gave birth to you and that hating her is harsh. This is the woman that use to kiss your boo-boos when you were little and would probably give her life for yours.
2007-10-30 00:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make space between the 2 of u, for a few days. then wen u both calm down have a sensible chat and come up with a solution
2007-11-02 23:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by emily123241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are only 50% hers anyway. But at your age your too young to be moving out...
stay carm and colected and wate for when you can move out then your on your own but for now just try and relax
2007-10-30 00:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋