question about herpes?

Question

i have herpes and i been single since i found out i had it , its been about two years now and i was just wondering and want opinions about when i want a relationship how will i tell my partner and would anyone accept this?

Answer 1

Believe it or not, A LOT of people are very accepting of it. A lot of people would tell you they would NEVER date someone with herpes, but I find that hard to believe. 75 - 80% of the world has cold sores (oral herpes) and about 25% of the world has genital herpes. They are going to exclude themselves from dating 75 - 80% of the world? Doubt it.

I have had genital herpes for 7 years. I have been in several relationships, the longest being 4 years and the current one being 2 years. ALL of the men I have dated and had sex with were totally open to dating me even though I have genital herpes. They were all super supportive and great to me about it. Of course we did every thing we could so that I wouldn't spread the virus to them, like using condoms, and me taking medication. The guy I was with for 4 years never even contracted the virus from me, or any of the other men! The only guy that contracted the virus from me is my current fiance. He doesn't care at all though! He loves me for me, virus and all.

Don't worry, there are a lot of great guys/girls out there! They won't care if you have the virus, they'll see you for who you are!

Good luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I completely undersatnd your situation. Having herpes and starting a relationship is probably the hardest and most common thing that people with herpes have to go through.

With reference to how you tell your partner...well you should be upfront even before starting to date if you see or think the relationship is going somewhere. They are entitled to know.

My cousin told her partner and he never had the disease. Now he has it and they ahve been together ever since.

There is also a site called www.positivesingles.com Here you can meet people with the same situation or disease.

I have also found that there are specific groups on yahoo. herpes groups. They tend to go out and have fun and you can meet people that have herpes.

With reference to anyone accepting this..well the answer is yes and no. Someone might and someone might not. If it is meant to be then it will happen and they will accept you how you are. You never know they might have herpes themselves. Its actually very common.

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Answer 5

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Answer 6

My ex had/has herpes and it didn't change how I felt about him one little bit.

We dated for awhile when he told me and I know that he was nervous about telling me. He said something like, there's something I need to tell you....I imagined the worst like he was on parole or something, really bad. He also knew a lot about it so he was able to answer my questions. We never had sex during an outbreak and if he even thought he was going to have an outbreak, we didn't do anything....seven years and I never caught it.

Answer 7

I promise you you will find someone who is willing to sleep with you. How do I know, because I know people who date people with herpes - y'know, I know a couple of people who at first were so wigged out that they dated only other people with herpes - and then they discovered that some of the "normals" weren't all that concerned....in fact I know one person who considers their herpes "their as*hole screening device" because anyone who flees upon finding out was too superficial to see them as a whole person - and thus not worth getting emotionally attached to.

You'll be okay. People with it get married everyday - someday you'll be one of them.

Answer 8

I have the oral herpes on my thing. can you figure out what someones mouth was doing their.
this Is difficult even with the mild form. but after all chicken pocks are herpes. try to be honest .
not having sex before marriage is a wonderful thing.
look how many lives it would save.

Answer 9

this is a hard topic. I know a friend who hadnt dated for 3 years after she found out. she played around with it and found most people are afraid of it, so just take baby steps, you will find your self a new partner.

Answer 10

Don't tell them. The disease is so prevalent that most people have it, in some form or another. But, if you have an outbreak, you should avoid contact.