he constantly yells, calls my dog a monster, etc. He won't spend ANY money on gifts, he buys the cheapest version on our wish lists. He actually listens in while I tell others riddles and comes in later and pretends he figured out the answer himself. He's probably coming up for my birthday this saturday. HHHEEEEELLLLLPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-29 05:48:39 · 39 answers · asked by billytalentishotasheck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oka, u don't get it. he's only, like, 57. OKAY??
no he is not!!!! joking about the dog thing. sometimes he doesnt buy presents. I am very nice to him and I DO love him. It's just that when he leaves it's actually kinda nice ( i know it sounds harsh but u haven't met him.) really my friends who have met him avoid me when he's around. and a big WTF????? to u peeps who call me scum or say sum nasty stuff. seriously, its not that he yells cause he's mad. that's how he talks. really, really REALLY loud. and he fakes being deaf. he really isn't. He also was just throwing all of my pappy's stuff into trash bags when he died and blamed my mom for my grandma's death. Just help me through it with SYMPATHY, guys! i really do love him, but he is soo obnoxious. okay, maybe just annoying. If he was my cousin I was complaining about u wold have been nicer! yeah, okay do that. just change all of the "grandpa's" i said int "cousin" ther, now answer
2007-10-30 13:07:02 · update #1
u know what. FU! to those who call me spoiled or a brat or anything. just FU! I admit i was a little harsh, but u haven't met him! even my mom complains (he abused her as a kid)
2007-10-30 13:09:48 · update #2
It's known as the "Victor Meldrew Syndrome"; unfortunately, a lot of boys turn into them. I've got one myself - he was so nice 48 years ago!
I really think it's down to insecurity - as you age, you will probably realise that you are becoming a second-class citizen. Nobody asks you for your opinion any more the implication being that you are "past it" "old fashioned" "belong in the old days". He may be trying to compensate by pretending because he still needs to feel that he is the Alpha male in the family.
The perceived "meanness" could again be insecurity - he is facing old age with just a Pension which he knows could be inadequate, he won't be able to work, he is frightened of having to go "cap in hand" to the State or his family for help so he saves every penny for "a rainy day" or "his funeral".
Have a lovely birthday and remember that your Gramps is probably an aging, lonely and frightened man.
2007-10-29 05:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He comes from a completely different time in society. You should give him some attention and try to learn something from him. Maybe you can learn a thing or two from his ideas about money. Maybe it will help you not to be so materialistic.
There was a time when people respected and took care of their elders. The reason for that was so that they could pass on what they had learned in their long life to their posterity. Also, he deserves every bit of your respect because
YOU WOULDN'T BE ALIVE AND WALKING AROUND ON THIS EARTH IF IT WEREN'T FOR HIM. Be nice!! Someday you'll say, "Grandpa was a decorated World War II Veteran? He asked Grandma to marry him on a beach? Grandpa was a math genius? I didn't know any of those things because I forgot he was human and didn't give him the time of day."
2007-10-29 05:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And when this really annoying grandpa is gone......You'll feel bad for having said all these mean things about him. So what if he buys you the cheapest gift, maybe its all he can afford or perhaps he knows how children are, they want the expensive thing now but in a week or two they forget all about it. As for the yelling what makes you assume he's "yelling" maybe he's hard of hearing?! And now the riddles, so what!
2007-10-29 05:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's an older guy, and he's forgotten how to act around younger people. When he was growing up, I bet they didn't have much money, so he learned to be frugal or else maybe his income is limited right now, so he doesn't have much to spend on gifts. Everybody has a family member like that. Be nice to him, be gracious about gifts he gives (at least he tries and it means he cares) and be polite even when does socially embarrassing things. You'll be old and not cool someday.
2007-10-29 05:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grand parents are like that. Think about this... they put up with your parents longer than you have. Sometimes that makes them a bit odd. Who cares about riddles, humor him. Grandparents are cheap probably because they grew up in the great depression. Might want to consider you dont know why hes like that. If you grew up scraping money so you could buy your family 4 eggs for dinner, maybe youd be cheap too.
2007-10-29 05:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's being like a kid, some grandmas and grandpas are like that.. or sort of going through a phase. my grandma's sort of like that too.. even more childish.. just be a bit kind and be patient. i know you're annoyed and all, but you'll regret it when he passes away and you haven't done much during his stay. that's why i try to work it out with my grandma because she's the only grandma i got. my dad's parents died when he was just a kid and my mom's dad died before i was even born... just try to be very very very very kind and patient for one day... maybe that's how you're grandpa shows his affection to you... and about pretending to figure out the answer, he must have want to have attention, or just wants to annoy you.. haha.
2007-10-29 05:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by xeno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of those things that we all have to learn to live with.
As people age, they hang onto money so they will have enough to live on the rest of their lives. Some people have high doctor/hospital/medicine bills to pay.
Some people, but not all, have had mini-strokes and become mean. Mini-strokes are silent strokes that we are not aware of happening. But all of a sudden, a person will become mean, or forgetful, or confused.
Your granddad is old and will not be around forever. Just keep your distance from him and keep quiet. Stay in your room or visit a friend. Keep the dog away from him.
2007-10-29 05:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, we can't choose who our family is so there is nothing we can do to help you. I suggest you try and make the most of the situation and spend time with your grandpa while you have the chance. someday when you're older hopefully you'll realize that he's really not that bad and maybe you'll learn to appreciate all the GOOD things that he's done for you; instead of complaining about the qualities that you don't like.
2007-10-29 05:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by rosieposie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your real friends will understand. Everyone has some of those wierd relatives. Just try to embrace his annoying qualities. Smile and give him a hug when he acts like that. Treat him more like you would a little child. You will grow up and move on and he will get older and fade away.
Happy Birthday.
2007-10-29 05:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents are quirky sometimes, just try not to let it stress you out. Humor him if he pretends he figured out the answer and just tell him how impressed you are...what does it hurt? Also, if he buys you a cheap version of something on your wish list, just donate it to charity and then use any cash gifts that you get to buy the version you wanted. I don't think he sounds so awful :-)
2007-10-29 05:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋