2007-10-27 23:07:34 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
when the mother of groom or mother of bride wears black it traditionally means that they do not agree with the wedding.
2007-10-29 08:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by amrolraml 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom are supposed to get together "before" the wedding and determine what colors they will wear to the wedding. No one should out-do the bride or the bride's mother, and, the mother of the groom should choose a color that would look nice with the colors of your bridal party. Perhaps someone on the bride's side forgot to discuss this with the mother of the groom. I would suspect then that the mother of the groom was not up-to-date on her etiquette, or maybe it was a small wedding and she had a funeral to go to afterward, or maybe she just wanted to appear slim. I think it was a thoughtless and embarrassing act on the groom's mother's part (but she doesn't feel embarrassed because she is not in-the-know. Excuse her and remove her picture from the pictures when sending out pics to family.
When my sister got married someone gave her 2 stuffed cats to sit in the back of her wedding limo. One cat was black and one was white (simply suggesting the bride wore white and someone's groom wore a black suit...or maybe looking like the couple on a wedding cake)...but my mother had fits and grabbed those cats out of the car and threw them in the trash. At the time I didn't understand why if it was good enough for a groom to wear black (with black bow tie) and the groom to wear black on the cake why it wasn't appropriate for a black cat to be in the back of the limo. oh oh...maybe this is why you were concerned. Maybe black means death or bad luck to you. Well it's too late now to change the situation.
I never thought about it before, but maybe the responder who said "maybe she didn't have anything else to wear", was right. Are they a poor family? Will that be a sign that the new husband will be sponging off the bride?
2007-10-27 23:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I'm the mother of the bride and I'm wearing black. (With some white in it, and wearing white shoes)The reason I chose black was I wanted to match in the pictures. My daughter is wearing white, and having red flowers. Her dad is wearing black with a red shirt, and the groom is wearing black, white & red. Originally I had a white dress with turquiose in it. Really pretty, but I thought it would look off in the photos. Also there are no bridesmaids, just afew of us going to Jamaica for the wedding at Christmas
And BTW, my daughter loves the dress.
I can't believe the stupid comments on here. It's just a color! Wearing black has nothing to do with how I feel about the marriage. And....
Yes, I agree with the wedding, and yes I love my daughter (more than anything in the world)
2007-10-28 03:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by tess 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm the bride and my mother is wearing black to my wedding in 13 days...i wasn't thrilled at first because of what other people will think, but it's not about her mood or emotional opinion, it's about the fact that she really likes the outfit! It just happens to be black! And COME ON, it's 2007 almost 2008- get with the times!
2007-10-28 06:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by chloe1995 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
my future mother in law told me that she was going to wear black at our wedding because the color "went with everything".
I'm thinking she really didn't like me as much but since i felt likewise- i didn't really care what she wore. Some people take this with significance and others may really are just clueless about what's appropriate or not. If you care either way, I would let her know.
2007-10-27 23:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Eliza M 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Many weddings use black and white for their color scheme. If that was the case, I wouldn't think anything of it. However, I might raise an eyebrow if it were a different color scheme. I would say it would only be appropriate for a black and white wedding.
2007-10-28 02:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon her 'attitude' recently and if you know she was or wasn't fond of the bride.
Many people wear black to weddings and its no big deal. Some couples ask for a "black & white" wedding.
But if you know she's not crazy about the bride, I would take it as a sign of her disapproval of the marriage.
2007-10-28 02:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guests at a wedding should never wear black or white, white symbolises the bride and as its her wedding day should stand out, black gives bad OR negative feelings to the day
2007-10-30 03:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by sassychick 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My MIL did wear black to my wedding but me and my husband also wore black
2007-10-28 17:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by mabuisakura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think its up to all people involved but i don,t think it would be very cheer full for the event its self and may take the happiness of the day away by been drawn by black outfit but as i said its personal taste i would not wear black to a wedding when its a day to be remembered as happy and joy full hope this helps good luck mate.
2007-10-28 07:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋