Do you lie?

Question

I really try not to. I was dating a woman and was too truthful. I got asked that classic question "Do these slacks make my butt look wide." I answered "Yes, but..." Never got to finish with ".... but all your other things look fine. Another relationship that bit the dust. If that ever comes up again I'll definitely loe and say "NO!"

Great statement Carol. Has me thinking I should not have begun with either yes or no. But, rather said something more like I like you much better in the white slacks.I simply answered too quick with my first thought.

Answer 1

I planned to go philosophical on you with my answer to this question; and so I will. Once you speak something into existence it becomes truth - real. We must be careful of what we say. But to relate to your question more precisely, we must be most careful how we say something. Find the best way to demonstrate tactfulness. I feel that a honest woman who will ask a question will expect and honest answer, even when the truth may hurt. Who really wants to play silly games? We should want to be honest and real, especially in relationships that we want to relish and nurture as we share and grow to mature inside of it. ...is what I believe is true give and take in the mix.

Answer 2

The question asked was not do these slacks make my butt look wide... it was do you still find me attractive. Its not so much that you have to lie. Its the reassurance that women seek. Sometimes women don't go out and say what they are truly thinking. They ask other questions that in turn can actually have the same root meaning as the real question they have. Not all questions are like that. Some times you just need to know which ones are which.

Answer 3

First of all, she should have NEVER asked that question... very silly of her to beg for compliments like that. BUT if another girl ever asks you something similar, what she is really saying is that she needs more from you -- more compliments, more validation, more caring... She needs to know that you think she is pretty and desirable.

If another girl ever asks your opinion about how she looks, just tell her you think she looks great! ESPECIALLY if you really do!

And yes, I lie, occasionally, to spare someone's feelings. There really is such a thing as being TOO truthful.

Answer 4

I will be a liar ... if I will say I don't lie. But, only in a very rare ocassion, especially if I can make someone happy and more especially ....I am not putting somebody on the gutter.

But in this case, tell the truth and suggest something better. Say it in a nice way.

You can do it.

Answer 5

the answer is "I think you look fantastic". or something like that. she wanted validation, not criticism. you blew it big time.
can I make a comparison for you , but using yourself as an example? let's pretend that your penis is a bit on the small side. how would you feel if you asked her about it, and she just came out and said that it was kind of tiny. I don't think you'd feel great about that. and another relationship will be over.

Answer 6

LOL I lie alot to get my-self out of trouble and to make up a cool stories to tell people but am trying not to lie even through it's hard..... LOL

Answer 7

you sound like a very nice, very truthful guy.
But sometimes women don't mind if you lie to them a little bit about their figure, which is often called the "white lie".
I lie. EVERYBODY lies. It's what makes us human!

Answer 8

I use to a little. Then I got married. Now I do a lot.

Answer 9

be diplomatic in future the most bitter ans is the truth

Answer 10

Yah to save my self from punishment..