Why do religions think relations before marriage is wrong?

Question

it seems no one can ever give me a straight answer. they say,"ITS THE DEVEL'S WORK!!" but how is it wrong? I don't think it is wrong because its the devel's work, but i think it's bad because, if used unsafley,it makes broken homes. But how is sex before marriage linked to the devel?

what the heck do a bunch of papers mean? Man.........The government sure knows how to scam.

thanks, You are all sharing great answers.

Answer 1

Marriage, is a commitment between two people for the purpose of living together and caring for each other and having a family and carrying on the human race. It's meant to be lifelong but doesn't always work out like that. Sex physically shows the love and commitmen between those two people that nobody else can share . It's something sacred between those two people. Sex isn't meant to be flaunted around with just anybody. It's a sacred thing. Some people may refer to sex before marriage as this Devil thing because marriage was instituted by God to be shared sexually by those two alone. And they figure anything that doesn't conform to Gods Laws it must be from the Devil. Course, we've all got free will, don't we?
Some of the repercussions of casual sex are unwanted children, VD, and now the dreaded HIV. Is somebody giving us a wake-up call????

Answer 2

Because christians believe that the union between a man and a women must be blessed and "approved" by God in His "earthly house" (church) in order for it to be "real". Also, the Bible forbids fornication, which is defined as sexual relations between people not married to each other. Sexual relations between man and woman are, therefore, considered the reward for waiting for God's blessing through marriage. I suspect, however, that the biggest reason at the time was to avoid a bunch of babies being born without the benefit of a solid family structure, which does, in fact, cause much heartache.

Strongly religious people find comfort and strength in the words, rules, teachings, and "warnings" of the Bible. They lack the ability to make their own judgements about what is right and wrong, so they obey the teachings of the Bible to the letter - despite the fact that many verses in the Bible can be interpreted a lot of different ways - hence so many different christian-based religions.

The Catholic church, for example, consideres marriage to be one of the 7 "sacraments". A sacrament is defined as a "visible ceremony" that demonstrates the grace and presence of the Trinity (God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit). Hence, the typical big fat Catholic wedding with a bunch of guests as "witnesses" to the Divine union known as the Sacrament of Marriage.

Personally, I don't think that marriage in a church with God as a witness has any significant impact on whether or not a marriage is - or will be - successful. While it's often true that very religious couples can enjoy happy and successful marriages, I'm still not convinced that it's the religon itself that makes the marriage successful. I think it has more to do with the fact that these couples have their strong faith a "common interest" that holds them together. It's no different than other successful marriages where man and wife share an interest - be it sports, art, music, dancing, and so on.

My first marriage - a big fat Catholic wedding - died a slow and sad death after 25 years, because we had basically no common interest and therefore very poor communication. My current marriage - united by a civil ceremony - is more happy and fullfilling than I could have ever hoped for. So, religion, in my experience, does not guarentee happiness and success in marriage.

Answer 3

Previous relationships increase the baggage brought into a marriage, and is therefore a negative influence.
If you look at it from a purely social point of view, while fun it can lead to unwanted pregnancies and unstable family units.
From a religious perspective anything you label as "bad" or "ungodly" is an easier sell if you market it as "the Devils" work.

Think of this .. if you tell a kid, "don't play with matches coz its not a good idea" and you tell a different kid, " Dont play with matches coz i will know about it and then come back and beat you senseless (but it is okay if you feel the urge to, because that is someone else tempting you)"
... Which kid do you think will be less inclined (more fearful) of playing with matches.

Answer 4

there is a deep social/biological need behind that, all religions are based on the social custom of unequal status of men and women, and basically assume women should belong to men, and not the other way around, therefore all religions insist on women not getting pregnant before they belong to a single man, and then that man is the only one they are allowed to have sex with, which makes that man the certain father of their children, and therefore responsible for the welfare of these children.
however, the fact is with the introduction of safe contraceptives, women have sex without marriage, and can prevent accidental conception.
even the need of a woman to pair before having children is reduced, because women have more rights, can support themselves and some children, and most states give additional support to single mothers.

Answer 5

While many of the rules within religions may make sense logically (do not kill, do not steal, etc.) I think that often times their justifications are not rooted in logical thought. Often they suggest that we should avoid such acts not because we care about our fellow humans and have empathy but because if we don't we won't go to the magical paradise in the sky when you die and you will burn for all of eternity in a fiery pit below the earth. Often fear works better than logic at convincing people that a certain world view is correct. It is much easier to condemn a person or act or group of people as "evil" instead of actually basing your values on principles and ideas which are more complex and logical.

Answer 6

I can't speak for all religions; however, in Christianity, it is one of God's commandments. The giving of one's self, without a committed relationship, cheapens one of the most wonderful gifts given to us. Sex, within a marriage, is much more than physical pleasure. It is the union of two people who have become one. Having sex prior to marriage not only can lead to unwanted pregnancy, STD's, AIDS, etc., but it also puts a strain on the relationship forged after marriage. God's commandments are there to help us acheive a happy, healthy, joyful life. They are not there to take away from our happiness.

Answer 7

Look at it in the manner. You are either working for God or working against him. There is really no in between. There's no a way to be neutral even if you believe you don't care about God in anyway. Either you follow him or you don't. If you are not following God, then you are following his enemy -- the Devil.

Marriage is a picture of what God has done for us. God gave his son Christ to give himself up for the world. Those that accept him in a relationship have entered into his righteousness that he has given us through his blood. The picture of that on earth is marriage. Ephesians 5:25-28 states this metaphor and gives us a reason that the church is called the Bride of Christ. Read here:

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

If marriage is a picture of the covenant relationship that Jesus has with his church, then nothing else should enter in that relationship. Look at it in this way. Christ didn't give himself up for people so they could serve him and something else. We must choose to serve Christ alone. We cannot be married to one person in a true relationship and have something going on with someone else. You may not think this has anything to do with sex, but it is. Give me a moment to explain a little more.

1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us to "Flee fornication" Fornication is defined as any unlawful sexual action OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE. That includes those that are NOT ever married. This does include sex before marriage. Sex is a something that bonds a man and a woman in a marriage. It is something that is the difference between a man and woman in a friendship. It is something that separates the marriage relationship from OTHER types of relationships.

The same is said with Christ. What separates Christ from the other things of the world is that Christ gave up his life for his bride--the church. Our marriages should be an illustration of that sacrifice.

Answer 8

Because regulated monogamous relationships (marraiges) protect lineage and build a structure for society (family). Secondly faithful marraige prevents the spread of STD's. I think these are two points which work for the well-being of society as a whole.

Answer 9

it is probably because if the boy or man gets tired of you, you become used merchandise. And some man dont like going with other people's used merchandise. Also if you happen to get pregnant, then how would you tell you children not to have sex before marriage, if you did it yourself?

Answer 10

The model of marriage (including sex) has been carefully designed by God to illustrate to us the relationship between His Son and the Church. By violating this design, we are not only hurting ourselves, but are also wasting the ultimate lesson He wished for us to have. Incidentally, it is because marriage is such an object lesson, it is presently under such vicious attack by the enemy.

Blessings,

Jack