So I am 22 and a virgin. Do you think it is worth it to stay a virgin? I kept it for religious reasons but now i dont care about that. Do you think that having sex before marrige effects anything? should i just lose it or is it worth it to keep being a virgin?
2007-10-27 20:54:45 · 25 answers · asked by daniel s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you want to go and turn your back on your religion i.e. puss out then you can do that.
Instead why don't you find the right girl marry her and get down...and possibly do a little dance after.
They only thing it effects is your sin-o-meter, no matter what the church says if you repent you will be forgiven, you still did it and your ****** - double meaning lol.
Seriously, just wait till marriage...or head over to Vegas for a short marriage divorce if you really need to have sex.
2007-10-27 21:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by stanleynickarz 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's not a bad thing that you're still a virgin. Wait until you find someone that you really like and you know that he really likes you and then lose your virginty. dont forget about safe sex(condom). And remember that having sex and making love are 2 different things. Do you want to have sex just because you want to lose your virginity?...Why do u want to lose it...and i think there's nothing wrong with having sex before marrige ....but do it with someone that is worth it...
good luck
2007-10-27 21:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Elena_Jolie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin until my mid-20s, and I have no regrets about waiting that long. It was well worth the wait, because I was then in a committed relationship with someone I cared for. In my opinion (unlike those of some of the above posters), sex isn't something you do merely for fun or experimentation; it's something you do because there is somebody special in your life you feel the need connect to.
I'm not religious, and I won't tell you that you'll go to hell (or wherever) for having sex before marriage. However, if you have sex with somebody you don't have a quality emotional connection with, you may feel quite cheap and dirty afterwards, which may have long-lasting effects on your self-esteem.
If you like to risk degrading yourself, please go ahead. However, if you respect yourself, which I think you do because you held on for this long, then do think about waiting till you find the right person.
All the best!
2007-10-27 21:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Stupid Cupid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Daniel, all you really have to call your own are your values. the choice to remain virgin until marriage is laudable. but even if you don't make it, don't beat yourself up about it. I know what the priest will say to you, but it's your decision. there is one thing that is a real positive in remaining virgin, and that is that you don't need to worry about getting (or transmitllng) STDs and AIDS.
now, I'm going to tell you the same advice I would give a woman who was asking this question. don't just "throw it away". make it very special, something you will always remember with wonder and joy. I lost my viirginity to a married bus driver on the back seat of his bus. I have to live with that. I wish you a better experience.
2007-10-27 21:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by freespirit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want to marry a virgin even if they are going around having s*x with a lot of girls. You are on of the luck girls who can actually keep their virginity. Wait for the perfect guy and wait till after marriage. It will be alot more special and your partner will probably think it is a lot more special knowing you waited for him to give up your virginity.
2007-10-29 10:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitley keep yours. what i find most often is that many cant handle the emotional consequences that comes with having sex because it just might be that their partner isnt "the one". and that could be heartbreaking. you might say ur mature enough to deal w/ it but once you are placed in that situation, ur emotions can overwhelm you. don't you want ur first time to be special? before marriage you have to worry about a lot things like getting pregneat and having the possibility of that partner leaving u the next day to find some other girl to bang. bottom line, sex after marriage has less consequences because the person that you are doing with is worth it and has significant value for the rest of your life. think very carefully before giving away this precious gift that u possess.
2007-10-27 21:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by yumyumz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why wouldn't you care about being a virgin?,,. You are a rare and precious gem. Don't give up your virginity because of 'societies' indifferance towards pre-marital sex values. Keep it. You'll eventually be happy and grateful that you kept your virginity for the right man. Be patient!
2007-10-27 21:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Oppna to tal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I kept my virginity throughout HS just to lose it in college bc I was curious.
Personally, I feel it's ok to have sex before marriage. But not meaningless sex, it should be with someone you respect & care for. If it doesn't work out, that's ok.
If you wait until marriage & have sex for the 1st time as a married couple - you might not be sexually compatible, how frustrating! It's best to find out before a huge commitment like marriage if things feel right.
2007-10-27 21:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by mkt 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
If you're in love and want that person to be the one you lose it too then go ahead! but don't just lose it for the sake of not being a virgin.
I very recently lost my own virginity after also disreguarding religious reasons.
2007-10-27 21:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm 22 and not a virgin. Trust me. Wait until you are ready to deal with all the drama. I don't regret it but it's one more thing to worry about.
2007-10-27 21:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by jonfboche 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋