My aunt (maternal) and I have a very strained (that's putting it lightly) relationship. For the sake of brevity, I will just say that she raised me from the time I was 10 years old until I turned 16. She basically hated my mother (her own sister) and never failed to remind me that the only reason she took care of me was because it was my grandfather's dying wish. She was never emotionally "there" for me. Granted, I did crazy things growing up, typical adolescent/teenager things, and I understand that it's hard for someone who never wanted children to deal with kids' antics. She used to beat the hell out of me, and she also said a lot of hurtful things to me. I moved in with my mom when I was 16, but she died when I was 18. This aunt is the only blood family I have left (except for my sister), and it really hurts me that she still has not forgiven me for the things I did when I was younger (I'm 26 now). My uncle says I should talk to her, and I have tried, but I can't. Please help!
2007-10-27 20:11:02 · 7 answers · asked by The Voice of Reason Is Silenced 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't need her to make you a whole person. She used to beat you and told you how much she hated you so just forget about her. Live your life the best you possibly can the best revenge is to be happy because she obviously never will be and will never care enought to treat you like an aunt should. Just make a happy life for youself and stay close to your sister. Good luck and God bless
2007-10-27 20:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by peteybug76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is show what kind of person you have turned out to be despite what she thinks or what you have do in the past.
You know whats right & wrong, so get on with your life, look for the good things, put the past where it belongs, in the past. its not something you can change, you've learned from it.
There will be a time so day in the future when she will realize that you are a good person, and that she needs you in her life but until that point you can't force it, you don't need it
Tell uncle that the time is just not for either one of you, and when it is you both will know it.
and if you have kids then set good examples for them
2007-10-27 20:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because people are related to us does not mean that we have to put up with their crap. She mentally and physically abused you when you were a child. Why do you care if she has forgiven you? We all do stupid things when we are teenagers. Some of us are just worse than others. Regardless if she wanted children or not she should have made the best of it or not done it. Your grandfather wanted you to have a home and for you to be safe. He did not want for you to be tormented my a mean and crazy woman. I would give up trying to get her to forgive you. She should be begging you for your forgiveness. I would write her off and go on and make yourself happy. She is just going to bring you down. Good luck dear.
2007-10-27 20:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok girl. I really thing that all you could do is keep trying to have close and personal talks with her. Just be as sweet an you can be to her and if you ever have the chance, try to do something really nice for her. Maybe she will eventually come around. I would just say "hey. you are pretty much all i have left in my family and i need you so badly in my life. you took care of me for so long and now you wont even talk to me when i need you most." Something personal like that. Just try to get into situations where it will just be you and her. That way she will have no choice but to talk to you.
2007-10-27 20:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by daughtryrocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 22:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Lets put it this way, your Aunt is older then you and you should respect ealders. Even if she has no interest in you its best for you to be with her.
Another advice please.
If your Aunt hasn't forgiven you then you should ask her to no matter what it takes. If she still isn't willing to be with you then you can put this story to an end by not being with her.
I hope i helped you out.
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2007-10-27 21:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Furqan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your aunt is a bitter and sad woman you really don't need her in your life. i believe its for the best she isn't in your life, but since you think you need her in it speak with her get everything out in the open.
2007-10-27 21:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by cutie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋