I am currently pregnant with our first baby, and my husband and I are in the military stationed over seas, so we wont be able to have a baby shower with my family. My husband and I made a resigtry online, but I dont know if its rude to send the link to people, because we shouldnt expect gifts. Someone please help!
2007-10-27 19:35:55 · 22 answers · asked by Mrs.Burr 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Edit- I am five months pregnant. And I am not really expecting gifts, but i thought it might be helpful to those who wanted to get us something for the baby. I just dont want to offend anyone
2007-10-27 19:51:18 · update #1
Go military! Your are not sending it to people. You are sending it to family. Mom, dad, sister, brother. When other family or friends state side ask, then your imediate family can give them the link. You got the word out to the important ones. Congradulations and good luck. You will have the toughest job anywhere. Military mom has all jobs,duties and responsibilities of being both parents. Or if you are the military one then he will have that job.
V/R USN
2007-10-27 20:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by rob 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's rude if you were to send out some formal announcements and put some information about where you are registered in there. Maybe you could include a picture of you and your husband so that they can see how far along you are. My husband is military too and I know that sometimes families don't understand that they can send you things when you are over-seas. I would only send these to family and close friends.
Congratulations!!!!
2007-10-28 02:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by SaraB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to bring it up in conversation with your family, maybe your mother or sister, and the word would get out. I don't know if i'd send out a link. But then again, the people that might really want to send a gift would probably be glad if you did send a link. hmmm
2007-10-27 19:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are not having a shower where people are going to come and join you. I wouldn't find it right to send links for them to send you gifts......
It would be rude in a way.
I wouldn't.
However I would send them all Greeting cards and let them know about the baby that way they will appreciate that you kept them informed and they might just send you a baby gift.
:)
2007-10-27 19:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Aliens 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think asking for gifts is very rude except I'm sure your family would be glad to receive the registry. You don't say how far along you are; possibly someone you become friends with will give you a shower.
2007-10-27 19:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm, I would only forward the registry info to the people that insist in giving you a gift, like your closest family members/friends. But to just send the registry info to everyone, kinda strange, being that you are so far away. Most people that buy you something from the registry expect to attend the baby shower, unless they live far and can't. But hey, if people email you and wanna get you something, then give them the registry info, ok. GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-27 19:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Could be seen to be rude. Generally, when you have a baby people will pick out gifts appropriate to the sex of your child, and because baby's needs are many and varied, there's no need to have a registry like a wedding one, and if you get a double up, so be it, bless someone else with it.
2007-10-27 21:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by mistysmum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant as well, so I feel where you are coming from. Im not having a babyshower because I feel it wrong to send out an invitation to people and them feel obligated to buy something. I am going to make people aware that I do have a registry at a certian place, because I will have one (mostly because Im going to keep track of what I still need that way), and if they want to buy me something, they can... Just so They do not feel like im pressuring them to buy anything, because lets face it, baby things are expensive!
Good luck, maybe do the same thing? Feel less bad;)
2007-10-27 19:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude. People do that all the time. Send the link to your closest friends and family along with a nice note. No one will think less of you given your situation.
2007-10-28 01:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by DB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you lived down the road from your friends and family back home, almost no one shops off the registry these days. A registry is more a way for you to keep track of what you want and what you have.
People love to shop for baby, and they will mail you whatever they feel like, reguardless if you show them the registry or not. Congrats on your baby :)
2007-10-27 22:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Alyssa and Chloe's Mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋