im 14, and im attracted to older men with long hair, tight jeans and tattoos. when i see one i get so horny and i just stare at them. my friends tell me im crazy but i dont care. the upsetting thing is id rather a guy who is like 40 years old then a nice 15 yr old. and even though i know it woudl be wrong if a dated someone that age, i still want to, i get upset because the only type of guy i want i cant have. what do i do???????????????
2007-10-27 17:56:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wth. (seriously why would you want to date a 40 year old pedofile) well then try to look for a guy that's around 16 or 17 that has that certain "look" that your going for minus the old age. Trust me that would be soo much better.
2007-10-27 18:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by claudia68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is an age thing and it will pass. The deal is that what you ask is impossible or not practical. If a 40 year old men dated a 14 year old then it will be a very bad thing for the men. That is asking for trouble. The moment he lays a finger on her then is jail time for him. SImply put noone in their right mind will do that.
The next thing is that it is not only an age difference. It is a maturity difference. The older you get you think about different things. As you get older you start thinking about your health more, your finantial well being, family and what not. Having fun is different. Having fun for an adult may means going out to a restaurant without the kids and maybe have a few drinks in a bar. Going to a loud concert not so much. The topics adults talk about are different too. We are more likely to talk about heart disease and politics than what happens to britaney spears. We worry more about our retirement plan. Well, at least my older co workers do. More about future employment, the comapnies well, being and our coworkers sanity.
Simply put it simply will not work. It would be like you dating a 6 years old. Not practical at all. Plus there is the respect thing. No matter what you say the validity of it is less because you are not experience enought. You just have not gone through enough crap to understand. On that same topic, as you get older you start needing someone you can rely on. If there is a problem we need to rely on people that can help us or be there for us. This could be emotionally, economically etc etc. We need people that can take care of our stuff while we are not able to. A kid can't do that. If there is an accident a kid is more likely to go hysterical than an adult. A kid has no legal power. A lot of time we need to rely on others to look after our things and these things require to be of a legal age. For example to hold property, power of atorney etc etc.
Being an adult is complicated and thus adult relationships are complicated. Just because the person we are with are good looking or cool is not enough. An adult needs a reliable emotionally stable self sufficient person that we can thrust. A kid can never fill this shoes.
So, the only person left that would date a 14 years old is a pervert and not of the good kind. A 40 years old that wants to date a 14 years old is simply not right in the head. That type of relationship will simply not go anywhere. It is a matter of the adult trying to take advantage of the kid because that is the only thing that the kid can offer the adult. Its body as part of a domination type scenario. If you did not understand that last sentence then you are not ready for the complications. Stay withing your group which is 13 to 16.
I will say that your fantasy is normal. When I was a boy I did fantasied about older women. Yes, there where some teachers to which I lost some sleep to. I think is normal. But remember, fantasies are just that, fantasies. I think you are attarcted to the mystic and maturity of the adult in question. The power they hold and the confidense they show. All normal but I would not further than that and would be very weary if an adult approaches you in that manner because that is definetly someone not to be trusted.
2007-10-28 01:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"you can't always get what you want." Sorry to say it so blunt like that but I figured you asked for my time, so here it is.
I know you want him and men who are more mature than you are and that's totally cool, but you have to think of the law. You could really get that guy in a lot of trouble!! I mean....BIG trouble!
If you are mature enough to handle a 'man' than you should be mature enough to handle the fact that it's against the law and you could really mess up someones life.
Listen, I know those boys in your class are kind of stupid and they only have one thing on their mind and that is a major turn off. But the simple fact is, that's all you can deal with right now.
Make sure you think about your future. Your going through puberty right now and your hormones are jumpin here and there and their not going to stop for a while. Try to chill and be a kid for now, you'll have plenty of time to be a woman later. (I know that really sucks to hear)
Good luck to you, girl, and just think before you leap!
2007-10-28 01:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until you're 18. I know it seems like a long time, but it'll go by quickly. Then you can have a 40 year old man without the risk of him ending up in jail.
2007-10-28 01:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, I hate to say it, but this might be a sign of a bigger problem. I know you may think it sounds unreasonable to suggest, but wanting an older man [tattoo's or not] is a sign that you could have issues that not even you are aware of. Please speak to somebody about this, like a school counsoler or nurse. Don't feel ashamed to speak to those people, that is what they are there for.
2007-10-28 01:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Im 14 too but dont really like guys that much older. What if you see a guy that fits that discription that is more your age? I knw he may not have tattoos but...
2007-10-28 01:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by xnemox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i rember when i was 14 i liked a older guy too , 14 year old boys are immature my advise to you is wait there will be a great guy for you too i was 23 when i found my soulmate stay away from him you dont know he could be crazy for all you know
2007-10-28 01:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by deirdre_odwyer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about older men with tattoos and concentrate on your studies! You are far too young to think about all this.
2007-10-28 01:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling.
2007-10-28 01:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by theamazingcoakley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
settte dwn...try youngeer tatoo ppl....they will be old and attractive to you 1 day
2007-10-28 01:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by steve 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋