I think my dad is doing drugs should I move out?

Question

Let me start off by saying that i'm 22 married and have a 5 month old baby.(i moved in with my parents to help take care of my mom who just passed away October 6th of this year)

Ok so i found my dads stash of weed (which i knew he did already no big deal to me) but i also so a baggy that had syringes, cotton swabs, and a spoon in it. but nothing else so i was thinking maybe he is shooting up...but then today i went and checked again and there was a rubber glove with little bags of white powder in each finger. so now i don't know if he is shooting up or doing coke...both bad i know. but i'm not sure if he is even doing them at all...he might be sealing it...doubtful but maybe. so i don't know if i should move out or what...i'm so confused! please someone help me!

i want to say thank you to everyone that has responded so far...and to your Peace is priceless...i moved in to HELP WITH MY SICK MOTHER...so i moved in for a good reason. but i guess i just don't want to face the facts and i don't want to believe it....but i know what i have to do...i guess i knew even when i asked the question.

Answer 1

I am sorry for the loss of your mother.

Do you have a decent place your child & you can stay? Do you have any plans for the future, like work or school? You really need to make some plans for YOUR life. Do not sit around & feel sorry for yourself. You have a child to raise.

You know, it doesn't matter what drugs your father uses or how many drugs he uses. He is a drug addict & that is not going to change. Your father is not your problem now. You moved in to help care for your mom & you did that. Now your job in that house is over. You & the baby do not need to live in that background.

If, some how, he gets busted, you will go to jail too. Your baby will go into foster care. You don't want that. And it can happen any minute.

Do not allow your father to cry & beg to keep you there. He doesn't think anything of himself & he wants you in that dark hole with him.

Take your baby & run as fast as you can. Get your life together & start over. Get yourself into whatever you want to pull yourself up & go on. You have a huge obligation in your arms right now.

I just read the postings above mine. Your ONLY obligation right now is that baby. Your father is an adult. He got himself in this drug habit, let him get out of it. You do not have the time or the needed effort to deal with an addicted person right now. Next he will be stealing things to sell for drugs. I know it is not him doing the bad things, it is the drugs. BUT who lives with it? You and your baby. Please do not place your child in a dangerous environment. Remember, they do not ask to be born.

ONE last thing. If you talk to him he will come up with things became much worse with him & drugs because of your mom's illness & then her death. He didn't use the hard stuff until then.........On & on & on & on until something extremely tragic happens.

Answer 2

First of all sorry for your loss.
I think the best thing to do is confront your father and ask him what it is and what its for.
It could be powdered morphine (MS Contin) that he was using to control any discomfort your mother was going through.
If you discover what you suspect is true and he is shooting up, for the sake of your child you should leave, but remember he's still your Dad and he will need your support and your love, seek advice from a counselor and if need be have him admitted to a drug and alcohol rehabilitation program, against his will if need be.
Finally, a person will turn to drugs when they are in a situation that seems hopeless, this becomes an addiction and makes it very hard to stop, then the drug takes over as it changes perception and it can make a person depressed or violent, either way treat it delicately.

Answer 3

Yes, move out. If the cops ever searched the place and found the stuff in the house, you could get in trouble too. Not good ever, but especially when you have a baby to take care of. Also, have a talk with your dad and tell him you don't like that he has the harder stuff, and offer to get him help if he needs it to stop taking it.

Answer 4

I would confront him on this, but keep an open mind because he has just lost the person he loves most. But at the same time you have to keep your child as safe as possible so I would move out and try to get him to go to get help. I have dealt with a similar problem and unfortunately he only started hiding his drugs instead, just let him know how important it is to you, and how you don't feel safe having your child around an unhealthy environment

Answer 5

tell her the way you sense and be common. this can be the difficulty she needs to set her on the main appropriate song. tell her which you may't stay along with her anymore till she cleans up her act and her residing house and proves to you that she isn't abusing drugs or associating with old druggie acquaintances anymore. do no longer stay there if she hasn't been sparkling for some months and in basic terms have visits along with her outdoors her residing house(paying for or ingesting). in case you lay down the regulation she could respond to this. She desires a awaken call! and don't decrease back off..

Answer 6

First of all, be open about it. Talk to him, figure out the problem and situation, remember he is still very senstive because he has just lost a loved one. I would suggest moving out if the problem gets serious, and possibly reccomending your dad to go to rehab to get clean if he becomes an addict, but for the most part do not panic, just take the situation under control. The most important part is talking to him and find out what is really going on.

Answer 7

To begin, I sort of know what you are going through. I'm only 16 and i know what this feels like. I had a brother who did coke and weed. i'd known about it for a couple years when i was 10 i found his pipe. its sucks. AND BEFORE YOU START A LECTURE TO HIM, See it from his point of view. You need to get him to go to rehab. To get him there, DO NOT TELL HIM that if he dosen't go that there will be no relationship with him. Instead tell him that he should go to rehab for the sake of his passed away wife whom would probably never wnat him to do those things, for you, and for his granddaughter. But most of all, if you get him to go to rehab, you need to make sure he knows that you will be there for him, always and forever. And be there for him. Always encourage him to do the right things. and please email me so we can talk. i really want to talk to someone who has gone through a similar thing.

Answer 8

I would move out and soon. If he is selling it that is worse than doing it. There will be all sorts of shady people in and around your house. You and your baby do not need to be around that. There could be people that he owes money to (his boss) or there could be wired upped druggies that really need a fix. I don't know if you know anything about drug addicts but they will do WHATEVER it takes to get their fix. This is not a good place for you to be.

Answer 9

First find out if he really is and then get him help .He's your father and he deserve a chance.He's probably so hurt over your mom death that's the only way of forgetting everything is by using drugs.If that does not help move out for the sake of your baby but still stick around.

Answer 10

Yes, you shoudl move out. You shoudln't have even moved into the house in the first place, witha five month old baby? Go away, and move in with someone. Have your dad go to rehab! Thats terrible, your baby could get really sick!