What kind of discipline works best for disobedient children?

Answer 1

I'd have to agree with the other answers on here that say to be consistant. I guess you need to just pick your limits and consequences, let them be known to the child, and always follow through with what you say.
I think the worst thing parents can do is give repeated warnings, without enforcing any actual consequences. I personally believe that the actual discipline method is less important than the way it's handed out.
Hope that helps!

Answer 2

Consistency!
If they know what you say is the end all be all they will be less likely to push you. Children will push until they realize your not budging. If you tell them that if they mis-behave then you will leave the store, restaurant, movie, etc then stick with it and do it. I think most parents just use threats and kids know they don't mean it. My son knows if I say it, its set in stone and he won't (normally) push me to that point.
I find the best for of punishment is loss of a reward, such as TV time, a favorite toy/item, a trip to grandmas, whatever it may be. That effects them more than a time out once they get over 5.

Good luck and be strong!

Answer 3

Every child is different and it is the parent's job to find out what works best with each child.
My oldest grand daughter used to push her mother's 'buttons' and disobey a lot. My daughter-in-law solved the problem really fast; she made her go to the front yard and pick up ALL of the pine needles. The girl hated it but she does not disobey anymore.

Answer 4

I recommend two books: 1-2-3 Magic, and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. You could find them at your library, perhaps. They take different perspectives, but are both excellent.

I really wouldn't take any of the other advice; some of it borders on abusive. Your question is too general for anyone to give you a specific answer (no one knows anything about you or your kids, based on your question).

Good luck!

Answer 5

Take away their favorite toy. First warn that you are going to do so and then carry through if necessary. Never just threaten and not carry through. Let them know YOU are boss and they are going to do exactly as you say. Don't be afraid to raise your voice a little bit. There is nithing wrong with a stern voice. My BIGGEST recommendation is to avoid that touchy-feely parenting that uses such phrases as "Sit down and think about what you have done and then we will discuss it", "Use your inside voice." etc.......

Answer 6

reward good behaviour
punish bad behaviour
id say focus more on the good behaviour, let your children know that how they behaviouring is what you expect from them and then reward them, even if it is just a small reward
with bad behaviour give them punishments that suit the crime, have a constructive punishment that makes them learn their lesson and after sit them down and explain to them that the behaviour that they just demonstrated was not what you expect from them, then make them apoligise for their behaviour. after make them write a letter to you explaining what they have done wrong, why that was wrong, what the appropriate thing to have done was and why they will not do it again. that way they can acknowledge what they have done wrong. always pick your battles though

Answer 7

What ever you pick for disciplin... time out, loosing privlages, etc stick to it and be consistent! Don't make the excuse I'm to tired or what ever do what you need to do to follow through!

Answer 8

I was an Army brat. My Father's method worked extremely well. Unbridled FEAR. This man would slap the snot right out your nose without hesitation. For doing something stupid...like...say...disrespecting either himself or my Mother. He did not get drunk and beat us up for no reason...you know. When you messed up in my Father's house you knew your butt was going to be hanging on the barn door.

Answer 9

You take away their privilages. Their currency.
Tv, computer, time with friends, new things, outtings.
These things are not rights, they are privilages for being a decent human being.
The problem with kids today is that they think they are owed everything for simply being born. They are far too spoiled.

Answer 10

Well I don't believe in smacking your child or beating it out of them, to me that only teaches them that its okay to hit and lash out.

The forms of discipline I choose to use will be:
1. time outs
2. taking away privilages ie: toys, video games, pocket money etc
3. making them aware of their actions (depends on age)
4.if they refuse to eat their dinner, they go to bed hungry.

There are always other alternitives then hitting your child/ren, you just need to find a system that suits you and your needs