My boyfriend is an american army guy stationed in korea and I am a japanese in japan.
He says he wants to marry me but that it is hard for any soldiers to get married to anyone because there are too many divorces and problems,,,and that it used to be very easy though...
and for soldiers to get married, they have to do a lot such as paperwork,classes and other stuff,,
He says army makes it hard,,,??
Is it true? or Is he lying?
2007-10-27 15:44:59 · 19 answers · asked by Aiko 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The divorce rate in the military is no higher than the average populations divorce rate stateside. That one is a lie.
Yes the two of you will need to attend a week long marrage seminar and there is some additional paperwork, but it's not that overwhlming. So he is exagerating on this one.
The biggest round of paperwork is applying for your U.S. Citizenship. Now that is allot of paperwok. But my wife (a philippine citizen) and I did it.
We were married in April 2000 at a cival cermony in Yokosuka Japan.
2007-10-27 22:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by oneiloilojeepney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most of the people said, if he really wanted to, he would. There is nothing that can or will stop a man in love from marrying the woman of his dreams. I would just be very cautious. Yes, there is a lot of paperwork involved and "stuff" especially if he's lower ranking and the military feels that they need to counsel him beforehand because of finances, but none of those has stopped the others from marrying outside of the United States. So good luck and I hope it turns out well for you.
2007-10-27 23:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jane_S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is hard enough, and being married to someone in the military makes it really difficult sometimes. I'm a navy wife in America for 2 1/2 years and it is really hard. I dont know if you have to take classes..... There is paperwork though. Don't do anything that the both of you arent sure of.
The divorce rate for someone in the military is very high.
2007-10-27 22:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Van is due 5/8/08! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being in Korea there is a lot of paperwork that he will have to complete and he will have to go through some classes. There are a lot of regulations on getting married to someone who is not a US citizen. They put a lot of this in place to protect young service members stationed in Korea who where running off and getting married to the juicy girls. Your leadership must even approve of you getting married now or you can get denied your benefits of being married (ie getting to live off base with bah and getting bas). AFN has even been running a whole string of commercials about it lately. Its hard but not impossible so if he really wants to get married he will be able to.
2007-10-28 00:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by thewedge226 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not hard at all, if he wants to do it. There is some paperwork, but no more than a few forms. Doing your taxes is more of a pain. Yes, there may be a class or two if he is of a very low rank. Again, not a big deal.
Just tell him that if you're not worth the effort, he's not worth keeping in touch with.
MSgt, USAF (Retired)
2007-10-27 23:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a small bit of paperwork, the real issue is if he has a security clearance. If he HAS a security clearance, then his marriage to you would be an issue because they might strip his clearance until they could process you. Which depending on his job could be a big deal. If he does NOT have a security clearance, there really shouldn't be much of any issue. Just add you to his page 2 and you're good to go.
2007-10-27 23:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by tis_bernie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"They have to do a lot such as paperwork"
The Army RUNS on paperwork. if he really wanted to marry you, this would be no big deal.
He just doesn't want to marry you so instead of coming out and telling you, he's blaming the Army.
2007-10-27 23:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by Barry auh2o 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of paperwork involved with the military, but there is a lot of paperwork with everything in the military. I think if he wants to marry you, then he is find a way. It is all a matter of what he wants in this fact. People get married as often in the military as they do in civilian life.
2007-10-27 22:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by sweetcarolinagirl66 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about getting married to a Japanese national, but the military makes it very hard to get married to a Korean or Filipino. Still, that hasn't stopped thousands of guys from doing it.
If he loved you he'd marry you.
2007-10-27 23:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the actual process of getting married is very easy. i think your boyfriend is talking about it being hard because of the numerous deployments that they go through and to leave a loved one at home for 15 months is difficult. he may just be using excuses because either he is just stringing you along or he just wants to make sure that it is the right decision for everyone involved. talk to him about your feelings and tell him the truth. good luck
2007-10-28 00:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by gijoe1154 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋