Theres a girl I like, we sit behind each other in one of our classes and when ever we see each other in the hallway we glance at each other, but never talk. I've answered her questions in class but other than that we have not talked. She is a shy person, but if you get to know her she is not so shy. I need some help with how to go about talking to her. I think she wants to talk to me too but doesn't know what to do. Please help me, how can i start to communicate with her.
2007-10-27 15:21:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the answers so far...theres one thing I forgot to add, I've gone out with her before...does that change anything you guys have said?
2007-10-27 15:48:27 · update #1
Thanks for the answers so far...theres one thing I forgot to add, I've gone out with her before...does that change anything you guys have said?
2007-10-27 15:48:30 · update #2
just a guess here, but "hi" might break the ice
2007-10-27 15:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring something up but don't seem too obvious about liking them. When you talk just be yourself, then you can see if the girl likes you for who you really are.
Look in her eyes and be serious and not desperate. But if she looks away don't try it again. When she looks away, it's almost always her way of saying "oh great, I don't like you, but how can I be nice about it"
Comment on her sense of humor, good taste in music, or prowess on the dance floor. It's all right to compliment her clothes, hair, jewelry, etc., but you'll really win a girl's heart if she sees that you're into more than just her outside.
Don't tell girls - for that matter, anyone at all - they have a flaw unless you are OBVIOUSLY poking fun at them, even then only if you know they can take a joke, and know you well enough to know how to react to your teasing. Otherwise you risk putting them off.
Be funny. If you can make her laugh, you've as good as got her number then and there.
Don't try too hard. Girls will see you as needy and will not be attracted to you.
Always be yourself.
Never insult a girl unless you know she will take it as a joke.
Do not touch or talk about her stomach, most girls no matter how thin think they are fat. This is definitely a NO-GO area as far as girls are concerned.
Try to get on with her friends as without them on your side you've got no chance.
No matter what don't leave telling her how you feel for too long. If you think she might like you then ask her out. After all, she can only say no.
Please don't approach her if you know she has a boyfriend, as it is a lost cause (for the time being) and you don't want to offend her boyfriend!
If she doesn't seem happy with you, leave her be for two days with out approaching her, that will give her time to cool down and think straight again. After a couple of days she will be ready to talk to you again.
2007-10-27 15:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication Skills:
For most people, it's really no biggy. I have serious problems with communicating my feelings to anyone, in that respect I'm totally dysfunctional. Knowing that you are communicating and getting practice is one way to start. You both seem a little shy, have you told her how you feel? Sometimes shy people need to be told directly in person. The phone and e-mail thing can seem Cold or even fake. . Maybe by sharing your interest, you can alleviate your shyness. For me, I am always timid around the people I care about.
Communication takes practice, gets better with practice...
Hope that Helps!!
2007-10-27 15:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Elainea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't worry! YOU get the honor of starting the conversation first. ;] Go ahead, joke around her, act funny, be caring, and flirt a bit. You think she minds? I know better, she wouldn't. She will probably act like she does, but I think she will be quite into you inside. Girls like that hardly ever shows their emotions, because they are so good at being shy and not talking about it.
So, give it your all OUT!!! Let me know how it went! :]
2007-10-27 15:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem
but im the girl and im to shy to talk
just go up to her
start having normal conversaions and have her be more comfortable around you
she will stop being so shy and open up more
2007-10-27 15:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by Scintillate88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lolol pretend u drop ur pencil and when she picks it up compliment her or start talkin to her
2007-10-27 15:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk about anything.
2007-10-27 15:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by donielle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just say hi....come here often lol
2007-10-27 15:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋