I just need to know why she always wants to be around me all the time. My house is always full of people doing things that might interest her more, but she still prefers to be around me. Being 9 months pregnant; I feel bad, because I am limited to what I can do with her. Do you think things will change soon?
2007-10-27 15:19:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Maybe the house being full of people is intimidating to her and you make her feel safe. It is perfectly normal for her to want to be near you, because you are the only person in the world right now that pacifies her fears and helps her feel safe. She will eventually venture off on her own when she gets a little more confident.
2007-10-27 15:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are probably dealing with a sibling issue here. You are about to give birth to another baby, unless you have not explained this to her, she probably realizes she is not going to be the baby anymore. She needs your reassurance that you love her and care about her. I would by her a doll very special just for her. Show her how you will be caring for the new baby with the doll, and let her know that you love her just as much as the new baby. Also let her know that the new baby is for everyone. Most children call thier new siblings their baby, and you might try making it personal that way. Saying things like our baby will be here soon and mommy can't waite. When the baby is born, find creative ways for her to help with the baby, perhaps handing you things such as passy's, and clean diapers. Teaching her how she has to be gentle with the baby that sort of thing. I was eight when my sister was born. I was the baby, and I knew that my sister was coming along. I did not like it, and my mother did not do a very good job of explaing it to me. I lost my bedroom because the my sister needed quiet, and so I felt jipped.
I don't know that this is the total probably, but I suspect that it is a lot of the problem.
2007-10-27 15:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Its the way babies and kids are. They want to be where you are doing what you're doing. Its how they learn- how they develop. She'll get over it a lot as her toddler years wear off, and more so as teenage years creep in.
Help her to learn how to play on her own near you, or in the room where you are. Find ways to include her in every day tasks. Cleaning? Give her a damp paper towel for dusting. Cooking? Let her stir something or put something in the pot. Doing laundry? Give her a shirt to fold, or socks to match.
Talk to her about things. This is the time when they learn EVERYTHING. Soon she'll be interested in other things. This is when you spend all day laying that good foundation. It takes all day, thats why she's stuck to you like glue.
2007-10-27 15:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is three and a half, and I am having my baby monday. Ever since I have been more limited in what I can do, she has been my shadow...I think maybe it will end a little once the baby is born. she just needs the extra attention right now.
2007-10-27 16:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by ejc0782 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was in love with her baby brothers when she was two and then she had another one when she was 4. She was always independent but she may hang around just to hold the baby and feed him and cuddle him and so on.
2007-10-27 19:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Angie baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's NORMAL! When I was three I was all over my mom like chocolate on ice-cream (not a good comparison, but oh well!)
I don't know why you decided to have another child when your first wasn't barely even a three year old... You should wait for a while next time!
2007-10-27 15:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by calamito 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably in one of the many stages of just wanting to be with you and no one else... that is normal. Also I'm sure she notices mommy's big belly and knows there is someone that she is going to have to share you with and isn't comfortable with it. It will pass, time is different for each child. try to enjoy the last month with her as your only child. :)
2007-10-27 15:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really try to enjoy it, mine "little girl" is now 9 and I wish she only wanted to be around ME! I know its hard! Good luck!
2007-10-27 16:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by Kali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, you are still the star of her show... the center of her universe. ENJOY it. They grow up TOO quick. My girls are now 28 and 20, and while we have good relationships, I sometimes miss the little girls who'd hang on my every word. :/
2007-10-27 15:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Harleigh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it prob wont change ,, its a girl thing. I have two daughters, 7 and 3.. they are both clingy like that too..
2007-10-27 16:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by yayitssonya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋