I have been in a committed relationship with a man for 4 years now. I live with him and his two children of who I help to raise. My problem is that I want a child of my own and he doesn't. Friends tell me to leave but I love him so much. I just don't know what to do!!! Please help me!
2007-10-27 14:47:34 · 8 answers · asked by Patricia L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You have two obvious choices.
1. You leave him and find a man who wants children
2. You get use to the idea of never having children and stay with him.
Those are your choices. Very simple. Now all you have to do is make the decision. The longer you wait the higher risk you are going to be if you do get pregnant.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
-How badly do you want a baby?
-If he really loved you wouldn't he want to give you what you so badly want???
Good luck
2007-10-27 15:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tired-Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he feels two is enough. You are going to have to see eye to eye, and if you don't then there is a problem. You don't want to bring a child in the world when your partner is not ready for one. If you love him, and he loves you, then you need to talk it out. You may have to except the fact that he is finished having children. This is a tough issue, and I understand that biological clock is ticking away, the older you get the more the chances of having a child with disabilities. I would talk to him, and try once again to get him to understand how important a baby is to you. If he says no, then you have two choices. You can love him and except his terms, or you can move on. This is one choice no one can help you with really. I do not think I have told you anything that you don't already know.
2007-10-27 22:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its' very selfish of him not to want to give you a child of your own when he knows that you want one. If you have made up your mind that you want to be a mother you should find someone who will give you that. It's such a wonderful thing to be pregnant and give birth to you baby that you have loved since the day you found out you were pregnant. It's amazing and no one should be denied that love. Good luck!
2007-10-27 22:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by g-girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Committed Relationship means you are married.
Unless you are married you are not in a committed relationship.
Having a baby of your own, He would have to agree. Or, find some one else who may want one.
Sounds to me your just his shack-up honey.
2007-10-27 23:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by Bones 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this is one issue that a couple must see eye to eye on. Neither should compromise to the other on this one. Someone will lose, and a child shouldn't be brought into a relationship if someone doesn't want it, because then its the child that loses.
2007-10-27 21:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have two options: leave him and find a man who does;
or stay with him and never have children.
Both are valid choices.
Personally, I would probably leave him as I couldn't imagine never having children in my life...
2007-10-28 00:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex and get pregnant without him knowing
2007-10-27 23:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with gypsy g.
2007-10-27 22:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Leann C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋