what would you do if one day your relationship was fine and then all the sudden nothing no explanation?

Question

we were together for only 3 to 4 months, however you could say lived toether for 2 months. i know that probably was moving way to fast, but things happen! well my family did not approve of the living conditions and since it was there house i had to respect their wishes. So, I had a talk with my boyfriend and he seemed to understand about slowing things down. then weeks went by I notice that he wasn't calling and coming around like he use to. then one day he called me at work and told me he was going to go see his friend in the hospital and he would be over later, he told me he loved me. then after that i never talked or seen him since. If he truely loved me he could have a least gave me an explanation of why he didn't want to see me any more. However, since I didn't get anything I'm having a hard time trying to get over him and i don't know what to do. I know I need to move on but i don't even know what I did wrong and I'm just totally depressed. I need closure, and I don't know how

Answer 1

You sure need some major help!
First of all, i believe that he was the one who's wrong.He didn't tell you what happened or what was going on. Then again, guys are like that. They keep secrets from you. Maybe he wasn't really serious about you.
Another reaon why he could have ran off all of a sudden was that he had something else really distractin him. He didn't want you to worry. He needed some time to think it over.
But don't worry. If you had done anything wrong, it's all over now. What's done is done. You can't change the past. Just relax.

Answer 2

I don't mean to be mean or harsh when I say this to you in response to your question---Why buy the cow when the milk is free?? This is an old expression used for years regarding relationships where this is no real commitment. Once a person has gotten what they wanted(sex) why hang around? Things happened too fast and they ended just the same way. It hurts, but there is a lesson in this for you. Friendship, Respect, Love all belong in any relationship. If he missed you as much as you miss him, you would have heard from him by now. Call him if you want, one more time to see if he will give you a truthful reason. If not, then let him go and move on with your life. It seems to me he has. You cannot make anyone love you and it seems to me he did not love you in the beginning. God Bless and good luck

Answer 3

In order to obtain closure, you're just gonna have to get the facts from the horse's mouth. It might be painful, but not as much as not knowing what the hell's going on. Who knows, maybe there's a simple explanation involving misunderstanding or miscommunication. The length of time a couple are together is often irrelevant. That is, they may take only a few hours to discover they are soul-mates, or maybe a lifetime to learn they have nothing in common and really don't like each other at all.

Answer 4

Closure is important, especially if you are a person who completes things. If left out of the blue, like you were, I would try calling. I'm assuming you already did though...
When people decide to leave, it's usually because of two things. One, maybe they needed to be alone (to get things done, i.e. school, work, etc). Or two, they found someone new.
It's sad, especially since it seems you guys were on great terms before he left. However, this is the path that's destined for you. There's someone else ready to receive the love that you give. So let him go, so you can truly give your whole heart and soul for the next one.

Answer 5

Well, first of all, get rid of the notion any of this is because you did something wrong.

It does take time to get to know someone and what this is telling you about him is that while he loves you, he is not up to this now. (Personally, I think love is something you do, not simply something you feel, but this is often confused as the same.) You haven't known him all that long, and he appears to have pre-existing issues.

This is surely very hard on you. Very heart-breaking. What you should do now, regardless of where things stand with him, is get out and do things with other friends. A boyfriend is a great thing, but no one relationship is able to handle all our emotional needs. A variety of healthy relationships keeps us strong for the hard times.

Be good to yourself!

Answer 6

Communication. You stopped talking about the important things with each other and grew apart.

Call this one quits and look for someone who has more incentive to stick with a relationship. It looks like your bf was just taking this as an easy out and figured he didn't need to say anything. Far as he's concerned, it's over. You're free and clear now, just decide what you want in a guy and go looking for that in someone new.

Answer 7

I think you need to put yourself in his shoes. Imagine if you'd found this great person that you got on well with and had loads of fun with. you realised that you loved them and then it was reciprocated and then suddenly you were told that it was moving too fast and you couldn't stay over for a while?

It seems (from the short explanation above) that you may not have explained that you wanted things to carry on but your family weren't sure. Your relationship may have gone better if this had been communicated better.

Answer 8

Getting closure is important. BUT he obviously didn't want to hurt you and he chickened out -- which is quite immature if you ask me. Time will heal this. Somehow though, I have a feeling you'll hear from him again -- apologizing. By then, you'll be ready to say "too little too late you SOB"

Answer 9

Let some time pass and then see if the two of you can find a place and time to talk. Another suggestion is to let him pick when and where.

Answer 10

If he doesnt want to come around just because you want to slow things down hes not the right guy for you.