I feel that my whole life my mom has neglected me. When I was a toddler, she would bring me and my brother to a babysitter so she could gamble. Then when I started Kindergarten my uncle and cousin moved in with us and she had them take care of us while she went out on weekends. I moved in 7th grade, and she would leave me and my bro home on weekends while she socialize with friends. She leaves Sat morning and comes home Sunday night but she leaves some food if we are hungry. Her behavior has continued until now and I am now 20. Now I am an adult but I felt ever since I was little I was neglected. Was it neglect that my mom left me and my bro home every weekend while she hangs out with her friends? I feel she was never there when I had problems especially during high school years. In our whole lives, she took us out once or twice. And even then, she would leave to her friends afterwards. Is thsi wrong? What should I do about it? She never changes.
2007-10-27 13:56:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to a therapist. you can't just get over something like that on your own.
2007-10-27 13:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write it in a journal and let it go you said it yourself she never changes so what makes you think if you say something to her now it's going to make a difference. You grew up and your a live none of us gets the parents we want at some point in all our lives we feel our parents didn't do enough or made us mad. Then we have our own kids and find out it is not as easy as we think. Have you ever wondered if your mother was treated in the same way that you feel she has treated you as a child maybe her parenting skills was learned.
2007-10-27 15:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she put her own social life ahead of family, but having said that, you have to move on and accept the fact that your mom maybe wasn't ready to have children, and that circumstances were such, that she didn't make changes and likely won't, unless she wants to. I would say you can learn and grow from this, you have survived and are out on the other end now, you can go to school and gain self esteem and show yourself that you are strong, and know that when and if you become a parent, that you will not treat your child this way, because you know the emotional pain, so you can break the chain and make life good for yourself. Accept your mom for who she is, but strive for more in your own life.
2007-10-27 14:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she neglected you. There is nothing that you can do about it. I would just forget about it and go on with your life. Make yourself happy and leave her to her partying. Make sure that you are a better mother if the time ever comes. Give your kids all of the love and fun that you did not have.
2007-10-27 14:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly do you want to about it 20 years later that would make any difference? Move on with life now hun, and be a better mother to your kids. I suggest getting some counselling to help you work through those feelings so you don't get depressed.
2007-10-27 14:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, your mom is not "mother of the year" and never will be. So now, you need to get over it and get on wit your life. Stop having a pity party for yourself. Your mom will never be who you want her to be. You had bad luck by having her as a mom. Now, get on with your life!!!
2007-10-27 14:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Libby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is over and done with, you cant go back and fix it, even if she wanted to and it sounds like she doesnt. Take care of your brother and involve him in your life. and vow to do better with your kids. good luck.
2007-10-27 14:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by diques1018 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋