I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. I'm 22 and she is 27. I have never had any girlfriend before she is the first and I love her. About a year ago, we started to fight alot and it got worse as time went buy. We would get into arguments and she would really piss me off, I mean REALLY! She calls me every bad name in the book and yells in my face. I'm trying not to fight with her, so I leave and go outside, but she justs gets even more mad. If I call her names she fights with me more (God forbid if you call this lady a *****, she will attack you), What's left to do? I never really hit her, but I just grab her or push her a little hard. She is just small, I mean I weigh 100lb more than her and a foot taller. She almost left me a few days ago, cause I grabbed her hard. She told me to never touch her, E V E R !! or she will leave me. OK fine, so what do I do when she treats me like ****? I asked her, and she said "we have to work it out" WTF!? after you make me mad?
2007-10-27 13:51:02 · 35 answers · asked by rus_rob1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ditch the b*tch
2007-10-27 13:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I get it, you don't seem abusive at all, just a tad aggravated which caused the tension to push harder, but still a girl is going to see it as its only going to get worse later down the road. What you really need to do is just sit down together and have an adult conversation. Nothing will get solved if voices get raised. Both of you need to talk about how each other makes you feel. Watch a Dr. Phill, haha jk. Hope things get better, if not I'd look for someone new. Good luck!
2007-10-27 13:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abuse is never the answer! do u want to go to jail, well u must if ur thinking about hitting her. just tell her that if the fights continue either ur going to leave, or u need to go couseling because obviously, u cant work it out on ur own. dont ever hit the one u love! also u should really apologize for grabbing/pushing her too hard. how would u feel if u wer in her shoes when u did that too her. it would probably hurt her too. just think before u actually do sumthing!
2007-10-27 13:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a serious conversation. If she cant sit down and discuses things with you reasonably then it will never work out. If you have and it still isnt getting any better I would get out of the relationship before you do lose your mind and do something you regret. Dont hit her, or push her, and if your mad just walk it off and let her cool down then think about things together. Like i said though, If it still doesnt work best to leave.
2007-10-27 13:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont condone men hitting on women at all!!!! However,if a woman hits or beats on a man the guy has every right to smack the sh** out of her...just as its not right to hit a woman its not right to hit a man either. now if she doesnt put her hands on you and just calls u names and yells a lot dont touch her,walk away further and further away from her....
If i were u I would have already dropped her,there are better girls out there then crazy ones like this one. next time she says never put your hands on her or she will leave,hit her *** hard and leave her first....stop acting like a fool and leave her now....*just a little constructive criticism* =)
2007-10-27 13:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ*ℓυν му вαвιєѕ*Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your first problem is you left when she was taking to you.
When a she wants to talk to you, she means it not matter how mean she is being. Just sit down with her and try to be calm and talk it out. Doing what she is doing back at her won't help. Walking out on problems and not facing them is never a good idea.
Never ever hit her though. If you love her that much, you should be able to let your anger out in other ways.
2007-10-27 13:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She expects you to change and do all the work in the relationship when she sounds like she's got problems, too. You tell her if you're to stop touching her (pushing her, not hitting her- that's a felony) then she has to sacrifice some of her stupid behavior. A relationship works both ways. If she won't contribute, you should not be in a relationship like that. She's abusing you emotionally and abusing the system to get her way.
2007-10-27 13:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And don't you ever hit her! I mean it too. this is criminal! She can send you to jail for criminal offense! You don't hit people!
Can't you just talk to her like a normal person? Just sit together and have a decent conversation, and try to understand each other. If not, seek help, if you want to go on making your life together, if not, go and let her go! You're both young, life just begin, you don't need this sort of way of life already.
2007-10-27 14:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by kayneriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hit her! That's the worse you can ever do to a woman. I think ya'll just need to talk about things. And realize that ya'll love each other and are going to argue and get mad but it shouldn't be that drastic. Just try to talk calmly to her.
2007-10-27 14:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by I can only be me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she surely shouldn't be attacking you with her nasty words but at the same time the moment you thought of hitting her you should have pulled off.don't ever think of don't it because at the end you are going to be the one affected and she may take you to court for abusing her for something that was her fault in the first place. just stay away from her for your own sake.
2007-10-27 14:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by zez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG grow up. To even ask the question is absurd. If you don't know what to do besides hit, then lock your self in a room and never come out, you are unfit for society.
2007-10-27 13:54:45 · answer #11 · answered by Tara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋