Okay, my boyfriend and I made a pledge once (before we were dating) that we would save sex for marraige. We're going to get married in a year or a little more (there's no set date yet), and I really don't want to wait. I know that he would do anything for me, but I don't know if we should have sex. What do ya'll think I should do?
2007-10-27 13:49:42 · 19 answers · asked by When Soft Voices Die 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You made a pledge, a promise. If you go back on that, why would or should he ever trust you?
Only thing you can do morally, is get the wedding brought forward.
2007-10-27 13:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if you are going to be getting married you need to test the waters and make sure you both satisfy each other's sexual needs b/c if not then it will not work. A lot of people will argue with me and say that is not necessarily true but i guarantee it is 98% of the time. Sex is nothing to be ashamed of and everybody loves it. All anybody asks is that the people having sex is careful and protected. Just use some protection, have fun, and see how both of you like it. Think about this... what if you do not like it or he does not like it? What if one likes it and needs it and the other doesn't want it or want to give it? Just my thoughts and my opinions. Good luck with whatever you decide!
2007-10-27 13:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you two should TRY to keep your pledge to each other. I know that you two plan on getting married in a year but your relationship is better for not having sex not worse. So, image how much better it will be if you keep your pledge until than. You two will have plenty of time to make up for all the sex you two missed out on after your are married. I
2007-10-27 14:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by ChaRiaLer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is all about change. As we grow we change our likes, dislikes and opinions. Marriage is going to involve a lot of change and compromise. Your being able to discuss such things with him will be very important. I think that knowing if you can manage to have a reasonable discussion about something you both take so seriously, would be a valuable discovery.
Frankly, I think knowing if you both enjoy having sex with each other (because it's not necessarily a forgone conclusion) would be very good to know as well, since you will be doing so for a long time.
What I see as the most important consideration when deciding to have sex is whether or not you are prepared for the consequences. Consequences of having sex, of course, are potentially acquiring an STI or becoming pregnant.
I suggest you talk to him about it. That can't hurt.
All the best.
:)
2007-10-27 14:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kenn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im gonna be very honnest with you. My bf and I dated a year before we gave our verginty to each other and after that he changed, he liked the sex and he cheated on me several times. Sex does change men and women mostly men and they somtimes have a higher chance of leaving and cheating after getting it. its like trying chocolate for the first time its adictive and sooner or later u wanna try different kinds of it..
2007-10-27 13:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should break the pledge but you can sit down with your boyfriend and talk it over and if the two of you decide to do it just make sure u use protection.
2007-10-27 14:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll put it like this. If you are not a virgin, then you haven't had the best sex of your life yet! That only happens once you are married. Trust me sweetheart when I tell you.....IT IS WORTH THE WAIT!!! No sex is better than with your HUSBAND.
2007-10-27 14:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by grapevine79 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ALOT can happen in one year. You have to decide how much waiting really means to you. If you do it all the time or have already done it, then that first night on your honeymood just wont be as special. Its kinda like.."Been there, done that". Even with being careful you could end up pregnate.
2007-10-27 13:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by Risa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you for sure you will stay together than have sex, but if u might split up b4 marraige..dont do it..ull just dig urself into a hole
2007-10-27 13:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by Julia♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well deff.. wait till marriage.. ur lcuky to have a bf that doesnt want to have jsut sex.. cuz a lot of guys cant wait untill marriage.. nd time wiil go by faster then u no it.. nd i bet its a worth of a wait..
2007-10-27 13:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by mary 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋