I know this will sound bad on my part but i really need to know what to do. okay theres this guy that i have liked for a long time, and i had my chance a while back but i didnt understand what was going on and i didnt take it (really not my fault he wasnt being clear and didnt outright ask me)! well he found this girl that he really liked and i pretended to be happy for him cause i didnt wanna ruin his happiness. But truly inside im like hurting so bad. Well they had plans to get married the weekend before my birthday and that hurt even worse! but for some unknown reason they didnt get married. well my friends are saying that the reason he didnt is because he likes me and is making it obvious. well I havent noticed anything and people are saying they are gonna break up n stuff and im wondering if i should tell him how i feel NOW... or should i just ignore it again? and also Im scared of rejection so if you say i should tell him.... how do I do it?
2007-10-27 13:47:16 · 7 answers · asked by Jenn [[Rick R.'s Manager]] 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just wait till you see what will happen.
If they break up tell him ur feelings.
If they didn't then hard luck for u.
2007-10-27 13:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a difficult emotional situation whose solution might not be easy for you either way.Right now , you have a renewed sense of hope to soothe the pain you have had for a while. The way I see it, the first thing you need to do is to offer him your sympathy and then offer him your help. This will endear you to him( since he is going through some trauma right now) and also gives you the opportunity to find out why the marriage did not happen and if he likes you the way people say he does.If he does like you and likes you enough to want to be with you, then everything will become easy and workable.However if he does not feel that way you may still have to deal with the pain that you are already familiar with.If he rejects you ,it won't be the end of the world;hence, start as I suggested at the top, by offering him support and sympathy. This is the only sincere avenue open to you now which also allows you to pursue your own goals without looking selfish , uncaring, insensitive,and self-centered.Go for it and good luck.
2007-10-27 21:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you hope by telling him now it'll give him the shove to split up with her, or maybe you just like him so much you wanna tell him.... If he does like you - which is something you don't know for certain - then telling him may add more emotion to how he may be feeling (if he is breaking up with his fiancee). My advice is if you want something lasting from this then wait, give him time to split up and get over it, and then go for it! If you want something short-term, just tell him, he's maybe a bit vulnerable right now and easily swayed.....
2007-10-27 21:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is SUCH a hard one, but if your at the age or like marraige and stuff you have to do things more maturally.
In SERIOUS relationships that SHOULD lead to marraige, you HAVE to do it the right way. If he REALLY loved you then he would make the innitiative to pursue you and spend time with you.
DO NOT listen to your friends. I cant stand friends who just say things to make you feel good like, "OH I THINK HE LIKES YOU" and all this crap. completely close of your ears to them, theyre not helping you.
You must wait and be strong. If he DOESNT pursue you then you know there may not be enought LOVE there. And that means that YOU deserve BETTER...
Think about it, you want to guy that your gonna marry to LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY... and not just love you because you like him, but LOVE YOU BECAUSE HE DOES...
so you sit and wait and i KNOW its VERY VERY hard but you HAVE to do it, thats the way God designed it and thats the way youll be able to have a good life.
So GOOD luck and remember you DONT NEED A GUY, so dont act like that... keep your head up and when you least expect it someone will be willing to die for you<3
2007-10-27 20:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by LiLyPooH 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just ask him if you can have a honest face to face talk with him. and when you talk to him tell him you love the friend ship between you to but, wish it could be something more than that and you always wanted to tell him but you are afraid of rejection. and you believe to people should become friends before dating just but it all out there.
2007-10-27 20:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him now, and forget the fear of rejection, that pain is nothing compared to wondering forever what could have been
2007-10-27 20:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by cant§touch§this™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him asap... rejection hurts but not knowing hurts more.. dont live your day asking what if. just go for it .. :)
2007-10-27 20:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋