2007-10-27 13:41:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i was kicked out when i stood up for myself and told my dad he cant take my education away because he wants me to raise my brothers baby. and the mother of the baby just left when my dad said i can watch him for that night and she never came back....untill i said im not dropping out of school and found her to have her come back....but yet then she wanted to leave again....so in the end i got kicked out and my father screamed at me for finding the mother so i can stay in shcool
2007-10-27 13:45:26 · update #1
I don't understand. SHe is kicked out of the house and has to quit school to watch her brothers (your sons baby?_) No that is not fair.
Wow.. . your family/dad has issues. No .How old are you. If you are under 16 go to the police because legally you have to stay in school
2007-10-27 13:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are of school age, and it is illegal for your father to stop your schooling. Talk to your principal or the counselor, but first, figure out where you can go to be safe if needed. Your father sounds like he is controlling and narcissistic, thinking of his life, not yours. Not a good environment for you, sadly. I can't really advise you, because this is a big problem and not OK for you in this situation. But, you just can't leave home with nowhere to go. And most foster situations suck, so work on what you can do. I'd say get a job, but then your dad would probably keep the money, so work is out. What are your other options. Write back and let us know how you are doing..
2007-10-27 20:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. Hey sweetie, can you go live with a friend? I got out of my home when I was still in High school. I lived with friends and still continued on going to school. You are so smart for your age to know what you want and to put yourself first. Most people don't realize that until they are like 30 years old. You could even talk to the school councilor only if you feel comfortable enough to do it, about what is going on in your life. The best thing is to set it up for when your dad kicks you out you have some where to go, and be able to receive your education. God bless your heart sweetie.
2007-10-27 20:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by n/a n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay so if i understood this right..
YOUR brother has a baby , and YOUR father wants YOU to take care of YOUR BROTHER'S baby..?
If that is correct ..then i do not at all think it is fair.
Why cant your brother take care of his own baby?
Even if the mother does not want anything to do with the baby, that means the responsable career of the baby should be the father, and that is your brother.
Your father maybe thinks its a womans job to take care of raising a child, but now-a-days there are alot of single fathers aswell, not just single mothers, and it is totally normal and acceptable for a male to be the primary career of the baby.
You have absoulutly no responsability whatsoever towards this baby.
If the mother doesnt want to take care of it, then its your brother's responsability.
Your father should not force you, and you shouldnt have to do it to begin with.
I suggest you talk to someone like your school principal, the school concellor , or even the police, which will be able to guide you, and support you, because they know the laws and know what you may be able to do in this situation.
i wish you all the luck, and please talk to your brother and ask him why HE is not taking care of HIS BABY!
2007-10-27 21:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs serious adjustments in his way of thinking, it's not your responsibility to do this your brother should figure out what he is going to do with this baby and the mother ...
this should be a perfect example for the boys to see what they get their selves into when they go in with no protection ....
I am glad that you stood up for your self and decided that school is more important you can't go anywhere in this world without an education...
2007-10-27 20:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia C. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well how would that be fair if she had to raise some one baby. The son needs to care for his child not her. She needs to stay in school and live her life and get education not raising a baby that's not fair to her.
2007-10-27 20:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Adrianne R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty obvious that this is not fair to you. Where exactly is your brother and why can't he take care of his own child if the birth mother is unwilling to do so?
The sad thing is that I don't know what you can do about your situation. I assume you've found somewhere else to live. Keep your head up - good luck.
2007-10-27 22:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Speedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father has no right what so ever to make you raise any ones child...that is your brothers problem..go to the social services and sort out what is best for you your father is out of order.
2007-10-27 20:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't fair. Do you have normal family members who could get your point across (an aunt or uncle). You shouldn't have to lose your education b/c of your brothers baby. Go to external family or a guidance counsellor.
Good luck.
2007-10-27 20:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by Guinness L♥ver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your education is more important than paying for someone else's mistakes. Good for you, for realizing that to fulfill your potential, you must have an education.
Look into government grants and scholarships, also be sure to fill out your FAFSA (Federal Application For Student Aid) forms. Good luck.
2007-10-27 20:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by WhenInDoubt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋