I have been married for 4years now, I can't help but to look at other women. Is this wrong?

Answer 1

It's fine, you're a man, this is normal

My girlfriend says when it comes to other girls, I can look, but don't touch

Answer 2

As I have told my husband, he is married, not dead. There are very beautiful women and extremely handsome men out there. It is hard not to look and admire them. It is okay to look at other women as long as you don't make a spectacle of yourself. Do you do double-takes or turn around when another women walks by? Do you make comments or sounds when a pretty girl walks in the room? If you are a pig about it and make a fool of yourself, then you are wrong and should reign yourself in right now. When you are with your wife, make sure that you are discreet and don't gawk and stare. Think how you would feel if your wife saw a good looking guy and did a double-take or made a whistling sound or gawked like a fool. It would bruise your ego and make you feel bad. Remember this the next time you start to stare and gawk.

Answer 3

To look is human to touch is wrong. What you need to ask yourself is are you satisfied with your wife? Then if not ask yourself how you can be. All marriages have there "dry spells" and how you deal with them will either make or brake your marriage. If you want to "experiment" ask your wife - maybe you are just missing the dating phase - take her on a surprise date to an old haunt. Look honestly at all that you love and want to hold onto then work with her to make it better. All men look but the smart ones keep it to eyes only! Good Luck!

Answer 4

Determine why you look at other women. Also is it lusting or just noticing them. Do you look because you wish your wife kept herself better or because you just want something else. When you are with her do you ignore her and stare at them? Maybe that is wrong if you stare and break conversation. You have to keep it respectful with your wife and them. Also I wouldn't let them see you looking at them especially if you are with your wife. If you are looking because you have a little disappointment with your wife. Go out on dates with your wife and build that respect back. Dress up and open doors, etc. Also hangout with your wife more. Break the habit if you are truly lusting after other women by focusing on the reasons you married your wife. If you find yourself just looking a little in a respectful way don't worry about it. Talk to your wife she probaby won't care either. If it is in fact lust don't tell her just stop it and focus on her.

Answer 5

IMO???? No. There is nothing wrong with looking or even fantasizing about being with other women. But, be polite and keep it to yourself.

I, for one, understand a man's need for variety, although I do expect my partner to be monogamous. So, I occasionally pretend to be other women when we play. The only way you can suggest this to your wife without hurting her feelings is to ask her if she is at all interested in role playing. If she is, you can dress up and pretend to be other people. If not, just keep the fantasies to yourself.

Answer 6

It's because society wants men to conform into peaceful civilians who stay with one woman, when we are programmed to impregnate as many females as we can. It's normal to look at other woman, but if you love your wife ( which you married) and respect her, then don't make it obvious when she's around, but don't feel guilty about looking, because you're human. Being wrong or right really depends on the unique situation and to one's own opinion.

Answer 7

you are alive. you are a man (I presume). You are going to look. It is Biology 101. As long as you don't act on a sudden impulses there is nothing wrong with admiring a work of art.

women love to look at men as well; I could look at a photo of Cary Grant all day long; and my husband when he was alive used to say, what in the "he...." do you see in him? Well, if he didn't understand no amount of explanation was going to answer the question..... so look but remember your wife deserves to be looked at with affection and love also

Answer 8

Men are going to be men. Women are beautiful creatures. Im pretty sure its hard not to look. Im straight and when i see a pretty woman i look and think to myself she is pretty. Nothing is wrong with that if you are being respectful to your wife and all you doing is looking. Dont walk passed a woman then turn around and look at her a ss you have to just glance and not a long look.

Answer 9

It's not called wrong it's called being human. Married 3 years and my husband looks at other women, doesn't mean he's taking them to bed.

Answer 10

Man or women we will always see others we are attracted to.
That is a protection. What if your wife died, could you go on and get married again?
The difference between a decent person and one who has no self control is when you think that you change channels.
Start thinking about how your actions would affect your life.
Break your wifes heart, cause your children to hate you.
By the way you would loose both.
Besides my parents would kill me. ONly animals act on every impulse. Just learn to deal with it and what ever turns you on. buy it for your wife and start thinking about how you fell in love and why you wouldn't want to hurt your wife.
No roll in the hay is worth the harm it would cause.
think about Jacob in the bible. He worked for 7 years for Rachel and was given Leah. It took a week before he realized it wasn't Rachel. they all look alike in the dark.

Answer 11

I really don't think there's a married guy out there that doesn't look at other women sometimes. I don't really think looking is all that bad. Just don't do anything you're going to regret and don't let her see you do it, especially if she has a major problem with it. My wife knows I look at other women, she just doesn't want to see it. Let's face it beatiful women are nice to look at.