I have been seeing this girl for over a month now... i have told her how i feel about her, and i would like a relationship with her...
She told me, how she has come out of 2 bad relationships...
she told me she is not ready to jump back in to a relationship quite yet.. but she did tell me she likes me, and she asked me to have patients with her.
i have a great time with her, so i told her i dont mind waiting till she is ready, and she needs to find her self before she is ready to commit.. she has a little bit of baggage, like a bit of debt, and she keeps saying she needs to get back on her feet first.. but all that doesnt bother me...
Well we still hang out daily (well mostly) she brings me dinner at work... and all that stuff that shows me she likes me...
I am just curious... How long does it normally take? I treat her like gold, and i continue to do so, and she knows how i feel, and im not rushing her... i am just confused... does she meen like a month... a year..
2007-10-27 12:51:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, woudl it be too soon, if shes having these feeling to try to kiss her or hold her hand in public?
She sleeps over some times and we cuddle all night (nothing else physical)
i would like to, but i dont want to push her away .... what do you think? how should i approach that?!
2007-10-27 13:01:16 · update #1
When the magic will happen, you will know. Everyone needs different amounts of time.
2007-10-27 12:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by martinlh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, now you know she likes you... thats what matter most of all right? And she has admitted to that. Maybe she doesn't want to jump back into a relationship so quickly because she wants to be careful what she gets herself into, which is a good thing because shes becoming aware of how to take things slowly. Just wait for her to come around, it won't be long and shes already bringing you dinner at work so you're not far off LOL! =] What you can do is maybe ask her in a nice way how long it will take her to get back up, but don't be too pushy otherwise it could ruin what you have with her so far. I wish the best for you and the girl of your dreams! =D
2007-10-27 19:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen dude! If you really like her as you said you do. Then respect her request to get her time to settle things out with herself. When you have been into back to back bad relationships its time for a break to clear your head. Your emotions status is at an all time low (other words she at her breaking point). Everyone is different when dealing with relationships that gone bad. If you care about her and wanted a relationship, then you need to learn some patients and give her time. She will appreciation you more if you back off and give her to room to clear things up.
There are few things one must know about being in relationship. One of them is to be appreciate the other person and not take them for granted. I find out this what cause so many relationships end the way they do. Just be nice to her but not over do it, ok. good luck
2007-10-27 20:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very hard question to answer. I don't know how much debt she is in, and I don't know what these other guys did to her, to make them bad relationships. I would say, take time to get to know her, she might be holding back, because of before. If you really care, it won't matter how long you have to wait, especially if this is the right one. It is much better to take it slow, so it will last, than to rush and end up with nothing.
I don't know if you have ever tried to catch a spooked horse, but sometimes you have to wait for them to come to you, (not that your lady is a horse) but you get the idea. You will be a very happy person in the end, and lets hope she will be ecstatic.
2007-10-27 20:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no real answer to this some people take longer than others to get over a ex and what they did to her she really wants to be over the ex b/c she likes you and waiteing will only make it better when your together it just depends on how the other relationship ended give her a mon. or so
2007-10-27 19:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her awhile. It can be hard sometimes. I don't think it should take more than a couple months. Just keep being patient. It's all gonna work out.
2007-10-27 19:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by When Soft Voices Die 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably means like forever. All of the 'reasons she gives are just excuses to avoid saying what she really means, which is "no."
She will probably have these excuses in one form or another forever.
2007-10-27 19:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she'll wait maybe 3 months at the most, id say about in 2-3 weeks she'll come to you, dotn worry, she likes you
2007-10-27 19:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really varies on the situation. Could be weeks, could be months. It all depends on the girl.
2007-10-27 19:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by Claire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant really tell you there are some options,she could still be hurt,she could not be ready and if thats it dont rush her because that will make her leave you or she could be using you not sayin thats so but thats a option!
2007-10-27 19:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋