A family member calls mostly to brag about
money and trips they take, this is a wealthy
family and knows full well that others in the
family dont have that kind of money.
This has been going on for years and I think
this is a case of them having nothing eles to
talk about, but week after week, it has been
"old" for a long time. What are some suggestions
I could use to curb the bragging without seeming rude? Thanks.
2007-10-27 12:26:54 · 16 answers · asked by sioux † 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
just change the subject and i mean immediately as soon as the bragging begins ,or you can always tell them that you don't know how your going to make ends meet this month .that will usually get wealthy family members off the phone in a hurry.
the main thing is to not let other people bring you down.
i quit a $100,000 a year tax free(up to 80,000) job because it required me to be out of the country 330 days a year.making lots of money can't make you a better parent ,nor will it take the place of q-time with spouse /kids.
when you are born ,you have but one gift,an unspecified amount of time on earth. you can make as much money as you are willing to sacrifice and work for .but you cannot make a single minute of time.so be careful how you spend this most precious currency.and for god's sake don't let yourself or anyone else waste it!
2007-10-27 19:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by joe c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, you are dating a guy who spends time bragging about materialistic things that you could care less about. It irritates and bores you and you would prefer that he not bring this sort of thing up. What you do is sometime when he isn't bragging, say, John, I'm concerned about something. You seem disappointed when I didn't say anything (what you expected) when you mentioned the brand of your new clothes. I'm just not interested in brands and who owns what. I know you are. I want to make sure you don't feel I'm not listening when you talk about them. I'd really prefer to take more time talking about x, your day, volleyball. Actually, you can do this the next time it comes up. You aren't criticizing him for being shallow and materialistic and aren't sitting there listening and beginning to lose respect for him either. A lot of guys have an interest that drives their gal bonkers and she marries him anyway. cars, sports We just make sure that this isn't what he talks about most of the time and takes time to listen to us. It might include spending a whole evening hearing about the screw size of the frammit in an 1987 gixxie which he sold in 1975 and is worth $10,000 today. Now, if he is materialistic you have to decide if you want to be with someone who is. That is who he is and you will get more of it and not less as time goes by. I'd also worry about how much he owes other people to pay for all of this and if this is someone you could count on to be open and honest about that and be able to control his urge to own the famous label. Of course you are going to do something to bug him. Why pretend to be something you aren't? If you really can't stand another word, you have to tell him so he can decide if you are the girl he wants to be with. That's only honest. You gain nothing by pretending to be impressed unless you are. You also are trying to figure out how he feels without asking him. You are taking how he looks, his pauses, grimaces and making up a story that could be totally false. You're pretending to be something you aren't. At least he's up front. Do you really want to be with a guy who needs his ego stroked over something that he spends so much time on and you actually hate? This sounds like a major preoccupation of his and may be a lifelong interest that you already can't stand to share.
2016-04-10 22:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..with phone calls its a little more difficult.What I would do is when he/she is waiting for a response, like say."oh,really?" uh huh..or something you say when someone is talking and pauses and then you make a response..I would not say anything and then say.." oh..I'm sorry, what were you saying?" Like you were watching t.v and not really listening to them. Or maybe just a ah,huh like you are bored to tears.Ask them no questions,don't give them any chance to elaborate.And then if they indicate the ending of the phone call make your end very abrupt. Like "see you later by" and hang up quick. Well good luck I hope this helps a little.
2007-10-27 12:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shortly after they call and when they start talking say, "oh! someone is at the door, gotta go, talk to you soon, bye." They won't be happy campers because they haven't vented, but can't hold anything against you. A few times of this is a good deterrent.
2007-10-27 14:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them for money everytime they call. LOL! I'm kidding, but it was the first thing that came to mind. Seriously, tell them that it feels like they're lording their money over you and it makes you feel bad, or uncomfortable, or whatever you feel. Hopefully if you're honest, but loving, they'll think about how they've been acting. You can't be the only person they've been doing this to.
2007-10-27 12:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kindly explain that you are already aware that they have plenty of cash and can travel the world, so unless they have something interesting to talk about, beside themselves and their money then you would much rather just get off of the phone.
2007-10-29 07:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just be woman enough and tell them that they are bragging and it is really unnecessary. When you let them know, don't say it in a cruel and rude way just be kind and respectful about it.
2007-10-27 12:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by keon_artis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't realize that they are boasting. However, ignorance of an annoying personality does not excuse it. Therefore, you should "enlighten" this person to their rude and obnoxious behavior once and for all.
But don't be too mean to them, cuz you might be in their will.
2007-10-27 12:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try looking at your watch or acting fidgety or let your attention wander. Anything to let him/her know that you're bored when he/she starts bragging without actually saying it.
2007-10-27 12:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by grate_groove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
View the trips they talk about as activitiies they do. Everyone has activities.
The money talk however ... tell them, "I don't want to talk about money - it bores me! So what else have you been up to?"
2007-10-27 12:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Latte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋