We are really much in love.
But he suppose to leave on a misson in April.
He doesnt want too..
well he dont know if he wants to or not.
He says he just doesnt know.
I said babe ill love you no matter what do what makes you happy!
But now he sad im sad.. two years without him is going to be hard...
he says he doesnt know what to do...
Missons are not for everyone..
so does it make me a bad person if i agree that he doesnt want to go???
I dont know i just love him so much..
2007-10-27 12:20:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does it make you a bad person if you.....
-encourage him to NOT follow the prophets council?
-Deprive him of extreme spiritual, social, and mental growth?
-Take away a once-in-a-lifetime experience for him?
-want him now the way he is rather than the better him in 2 years?
Frankly....you're being selfish and my guess is that you stand on shaky ground with your own testimony.
Missions are for ALL YOUNG MEN who are worthy and willing to serve.
If it's true love, you'll be around in 2 years and so will he. Let him do what is right and have this experience.
I'd suggest spending some time on your knees getting to know the lord and the truthfulness of the gospel.
2007-10-30 00:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ender 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you LDS, What are your requirements for a temple marriage??? One of them should be a return missionary, I would think, being that I am ex-mormon, unless you are not mormon, then it does not matter because he already broke the 1st rule, which is to not date outside of his religion, so then it doesn't matter if he goes on a mission or not, so then it wouldn't matter if he could then take you to the temple or not. As a mormon, if he can't fulfill a mission, he can't be ready for a temple marriage. The temple is too surprising for a nonmissionary to go into anyways, altho you can marry civily and then get married in the temple later.
Being a speedreader, I reread your question and it seems you are not LDS I gather, then it would be best to decide, if you want him to become a christian or whatever religion you are, chances are, he may go back to being a mormon, hopefully not, but if he does, he may try to drag you along, once you are married, this is very bad, because the brainwashing (after all the nice ladies have invited you into the church) can be overwhelming once you see it, its too late. If your christian, get him into your church, if your something else, I have no advise for you, you will have to decide on your own, even tho I use to be a wiccan and then an atheist.
2007-10-28 13:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two separate issues here. Should he go on a mission and what is your role?
You should tell him you support him, and that the choice is 100% his to make based on prayer. If you lead him in either direction, one day he will transfer his disappointment to you. He has to be a man and make a tough choice that is right for the rest of his life. Five or twenty-five years from now, you don't want him feeling bitter about it.
Two years is a long time. A boy leaves and a man returns. Some day you will counsel your own son about a mission, and your daughter about waiting. Rehearse what you want to tell them.
2007-10-29 10:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Isolde 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's a couple pieces of information missing in your story. How old are you guys? How long have you been dating?
2007-10-27 19:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Rara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this mission trip is truly a trip sent from god then god will provide you with all the answers you need just look to him and pray for his guidance and he will be there for you god is truly an awesome god be at peace and trust in him with all your heart and faith
2007-10-27 19:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by rmanion1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋