My baby is 13 months old now and I know the day is going to come when he is going to be more aware of what is going on around him and start asking questions. At what age did you make a conscious decision to cover yourself properly before attending to your baby/toddler?
2007-10-27 12:14:34 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Your son's level of sexual negativism will be in direct proportion to yours. If you and daddy are not comfortable with your bodies, chances are very good it will be no time he will intuitively pick up on this and it will be harder for him to come to terms with why there is anything wrong with HIS.
I am certainly not advocating nudism around your children unless that is your normal lifestyle and you have no shame about talking about it to your son when he is able to ask questions about it. Like it or not, honesty is the best policy; answer questions your son may raise using language appropriate to his level of understanding. In other words, don't give him an hour long college level diseratation about where babies come from if he first asks at age three.
It might be a good idea for you and daddy to have a discussion about this issue amongst yourselves and come to some sort of agreemnet about your feelings before worrying about junior. You are obviously operating under the value system you were brought up under, so it might be a good idea for you to talk to your mother about it as well.
2007-10-27 12:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 19 months old. And we still take a bath together. She never looks at my boobs and points and asks what they are and she has never even noticed my vaginal area. She NEVER sees her dad naked and I feel that's the way it should be. Once she hits about 3 I will probably not allow her to see me in less than underware, but the way I feel is that if you're a woman and you have a little girl, both of you will have the same things and vice versa for a boy. What's the big deal? As long as after the age of about 3 you're not prancing around the house naked or just in underware every single day, then you're doing fine. You're going to find those days where you go to your room to get regular clothes on and get out of nightclothes and forget your shirt or pants in the dryer and you're going to have to run through in underware... But hell....my husband's family has pictures of Christmas day on up until my DH was in his early teens and ALL of the boys are opening up Christmas presents (including dad) in UNDERWARE. I personally don't see myself (nor have we done it) doing that....but it's really up to you and I would say that 3 is an appropriate age to start being descreet.
2007-10-27 21:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Christy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's basically when the child starts to notice. My four year old has seen me plenty of times in a towel after a shower and doesn't think twice. However, I've noticed that when I wear a tank top he looks at me very curiously. At his age, your son has no concept of modesty, but it's something that should be learned gradually. If he suddenly starts becoming VERY interested in watching you dress, or if can't seem to stop rubbing your bare legs when you're wearing short shorts, you'll know it's time to start being more discreet.
2007-10-27 19:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by fawnberrie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long term memory begins sometime around the age of 4... maybe even earlier in some kids... they become aware of things even earlier... so I would start covering up sometime around 2 1/2.
2007-10-27 19:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by db 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a nudist, it's never really been an issue. We just walk around nude like we are wearing clothes. The kids have never had an issue with it. Made potty learning way easy, too!
I know that many of you will be offended by this and I am sorry, but in reality, it's your issue, not ours.
(Please note that we are fully clothed when those outside the immediate family visit!)
2007-10-27 21:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by rachelgracemusic 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, my sons are 6... I should probably cover up, but I don't think it's hurting them. I guess the day will come when they look at me like they are uncomfortable or embarrased, and I'll know it's time to stop. We live in a small 2 bedroom apartment, with only 1 bathroom, so there's not much privacy to begin with. I don't walk around naked in the day, but often I'll be getting dressed in the morning and have to keep going to check on them, or they keep coming in my room. Or in the middle of the night; I sleep naked, so if 1 of them calls for me in the night, I don't stop to put pj's on.
I don't ever remember seeing my dad naked, but I remember seeing my mom and step-mom naked, even as a teenager, I don't think it scarred me.
2007-10-27 19:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
About 15 months
2007-10-27 19:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by itsallgood 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been thinking about this as I am 17 weeks pregnant. I was thinking that around a year old I would start to cover up. Around your time now.
2007-10-27 19:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Karla 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have only one bathroom, so there's a fair amount of nudity.
I don't snuggle him when naked anymore, but I don't hide myself when walking around upstairs, either.
Son is seven.
According to my mom, the kid makes it obvious when it is time to stop.
Questions about the "dangly bits" are really easy to answer, and don't cause trouble at all. The mystery for kids isn't sex (which they view as a rather mechanical thing); the part that causes the "trouble" is the fact that grownups enjoy sex. Nudity doesn't provoke questions about that!
Those of you who give very young ages, how do you pee at the mall when your kids are with you? What do you do with a young son who needs to come in the stall with you for safety reasons?
2007-10-27 19:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by tweedropjes 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
By the time a child is 2 years old they become curious about their own body and if yours is a little exposed it will lead to pointing and looking.I don't remeber how old my kids where when I was careful but my grandson is 2 and I always cover up.
2007-10-27 19:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋