22yr.old virgin... What should I do?

Question

Ok... Here's the situation... I am 22 live in Texas and yes I am a virgin. I am a MALE, not gay, very attractive, nice job, own home and car, but it seems as though I cannot find HER. Her being the right girl. I feel as though I am missing out on my youthful years, or my young adult years. Every time I think she's the one something happens. I carry myself like a gentleman, but I am also a manly man. Now, there are some girls out there that I know I can have sex with, today if I wanted, but I am not attracted to them... I want a wife, but I want to see what's out there for me before I get to my wife. Am I feeling right? Should I be having sex? Should I continue to wait? Or WHAT? Yes I have a desire to have sex, BUT not just with any woman.

Answer 1

Go for it.

Answer 2

You're twenty-two and a virgin. THAT IS NOT BAD! If you WEREN'T a virgin I'd be concerned. It's not all about sex! If you want a wife, you need to be able to brag that you're waiting to get married before having sex, because you don't want to be a player! After all who wants an apple already bitten out of? That will just prove that you're entirely loyal to the woman you love, even though you haven't met her yet. You don't need to get married right away either, go to parties, stuff like that, but GOOD parties where you KNOW for a fact that the girls there aren't gold diggers. You're a perfect target when it comes to gold diggers. I'm VERY proud that someone has a good sense of moral and will wait for his wife! Also that you've resisted that fact. Alot of men will start having sex between the age of 13-16! The only thing that I'm not proud to say about you is that you have to hear this from a thirteen year old. You're a good guy, and you should be proud of that. Don't you EVER feel like you have to have sex just to be attractive. And don't you EVER let people talk you into stuff like that. I have no problems with you going ahead and having sex before marriage, I'm not going to castrate you! But I think it shows you have more balls to wait.

Answer 3

I am planning on doing the same thing. So far I'm only 17 though :D I would say wait until you find a wife. Write down a list of qualities you want in a wife, and look for someone like that. They by all means won't have all the qualities you want, so find a person who has the most important ones to you. Until then, you can "practice" by dating girls you have no intention of getting serious with. This will help your dating with the girl of your dreams go smoothly, but you will hurt those other girls, and may feel like an ***, so I don't know if thats good advice or not... your choice! Good Luck finding the girl of your dreams :)

Answer 4

You didn't say you are a christian, but I kinda feel like you are. So, Lance, maybe the Holy Spirit wants to help you with your need; your need to share intimacy with a very special girl. When you want to have sex, but not with just anyone, you want more than sex, that is known as intimacy. That is usually found in a marriage, blessed by God. But you also say that you "want to see what's out there for me before I get to my wife?" That brings in conflict. So...... what's out there that you haven't experienced, that has such appeal to you?? You seem to have "everything," good job, home, and car. I remember the first marriage proposal I had, and I gave the same answer you gave..... "I want to see the world first, before I settle down and marry." Well, that's what I did; I saw the world. The horrible, cold cruel world. It nearly cost me my life! This poor little lamb (me) hurried back into the sheep fold and threw myself before the throne of God and repented. Got my priorities back in place; I was ready now for intimacy with God.
I stopped dating (about a year and half or more) and began seeking God with all my heart. This time, when a wonderful man came into my life, I was much more appreciative. After I'd known him about 17 months, we were married. Read Isaiah 43 and the first 7 or 8 scriptures to see what I went thru; I hope you don't have to go thru the burning fire, and deep waters like I did. (Put your own name in the place of Jacob/Israel).

Answer 5

I'm 16, I'm a male, attractive, and I have a job, just like yourself. But I don't have a home or car.

You don't have to take me serious if you don't want to, but I've had sex mroe times then I can remember with many attractive women.

And I'll tell you right now, I am so sickened with myself that I can't believe it. Spare yourself the internal conflict, and wait for the right one. Your only a virgin once you know. I used to be that way to. ....

Well good luck man. Sex isin't everything. Decency and class is though, you seem to have it. Don't lose it by losing your virginty at the same time. I wish you well...

Answer 6

Well, if this question is for real, all I can say to you is to chill out. If you are as desperate as you sound, you're going to scare away Miss Right straight away. You're only 22. How about you date some girls if you get the chance. If you don't think they're wife material, break up with them and move on. Generally, we have to kiss a lot of frogs before we find our princes (or princesses). The secret is not to mistake a frog for a princess.

Answer 7

Relax!

There is no specialness attached to being a virgin since the days of the Puritans. It's quaint, but unimportant. You will even find some people who are on the other side of neutral who will argue that you may not be experienced enough to make a partner happy and/or that you are more likely to fall for the first girl to give you 'the works'.

If you feel right and the situation is right for you, have sex. If you don't feel right about it, don't do it. But for goodness sake, don't let anyone else's opinion figure into it...even mine!

Answer 8

It sounds like you really want your first time to be a meaningful experience yet you find yourself compromising those feelings because of thoughts that you are running out of time.
I feel like you have answered your own question by saying: "Yes, I have a desire to have sex, BUT not just with any woman."
I think what you are feeling is normal in that you want to have that experience badly but are feeling frustrated because you don't have "the person" to share it with.
Instead of concentrating on the sex end of it...focus on being the best person that you can be all the rest will come in time!
Good Luck!

Answer 9

I personally admire you for waiting so long. In todays sex-saturated world, it is difficult to not feel like you are missing out.

I would keep on trucking until you find that one girl that is right for you. Think how nice it will be to know that you are going to be with that person for the rest of your life, instead of regretting getting married because the sex wasnt as good as some girl you dated when you were in college. Also, think about it from the girl's point of view. To me, it would mean SO much to know that my husband waited for me and me only.

Answer 10

you seem to be a virgin by choice, not because you're unattractive, and a nice guy, but 22 is pretty young to be getting married in most people's book. women your age are either looking for some sense of long-term security or they're establishing their own identities and working on building their own careers. Your standards may be too high, and you might change your focus from marriage to establishing a long-term relationship. 22 year-olds that jump into marriage just to lose their virginity are likely to end up as 24 year-olds getting divorced.

Answer 11

Nothing to be ashamed of
I didn't lose my virginity til I was 22 to my girlfriend who
eventually became my wife who eventually became my
exwife.

In the back of my mind, i kept wondering if what my best
friend was saying was actually true:
"They all feel the same, they just moan a little different"
Now that I am single again, i found out that it is true Ü

This is your life. If you want to save yourself til marriage
by all means no need to lose your V to some whore.
If you feel you have wild oats to sow, even if its just a tiny
feeling deep inside you, by all means SOW IT before you
get married cuz that feeling will grow & grow & you might
eventually end up cheating on your wife.

Whatever you decide, good luck