getting out of grounding?

Question

which is the right way to go? crying or what?

and i don't really think i deserve it

Answer 1

Tears can be quickly identified as fake. Don't use them unless this is a proven strategy with a real softie, and even then, use tears in moderation. You are essentially begging for pity and that's not a real negotiating position of strength. There are better ways.

1. Try taking it to a different authority if there is any question as to the grounder's total authority, i.e. go to the other parent and appeal for reason. Divide and conquer.

2. Consider getting a sympathetic grandparent, aunt, uncle or neighbor involved and get them to appeal your case.

3. Embarrass the grounding parent into shame by having all the other kid's parents to call to expect you at the desired event...and then have the grounding parent's questionable judgement brought into light by other more reasonable parents.

4. Whatever the hardest thing your parent has been trying to get you to do...(e.g. clean out the garage, etc.)...negotiate to do it in exchange for getting to your event or whatever it is you are tryint to do. Bargain for your freedom.

5. Get your local church involved and have the Youth Pastor call to invite you out to their events. At least you will be sprung from your cage. Maybe their event can somehow coordinate with your getting to go to the one you desire.

6. Find someone who has a cool parent to talk to your parent(s) and have them promise to chaperone you, whether they chaperone you or not.

7. Create a diversion or crisis bigger than the crisis you are facing. The parent will focus on the diversion and pay less attention to the restriction you are trying to avoid.

8. Call the National Runnaway Hotline for advice. I'm not saying runaway...but they may have other negotiating strategies to try before your grounding parent makes you totally blow a fuse.

9. If all else fails, swallow your pride, be quiet, polite, and sincere, and accept the grounding but score points for your next big adventure away. You are investing in trust, whether their rules are fair or not. They hold the keys for now so sometimes the best route is to just earn your freedom through whatever behavior they require. It sucks going through it, yes. But you will live to fight a better day.

Answer 2

How about sucking it up and accepting your grounding like a responsible person? That will go a long, long way toward getting your privileges back. Or you go to your room, and squall and bawl and carry on, in which case, if I were your mother, I would ground you to your room so I wouldn't have to listen to you. Oh, and I would take away the computer, too.

Answer 3

Not getting trouble is the best way to start. If you do get in trouble, don't try to wheedle your way out of it, unless you truely did not do anything. In which case, don't raise your voice, get mad/angry, or get whiny.

If you "don't really thing" you deserve it, you probably do. Just read a book or draw or something. Look on the bright side of things, no matter what they are. Don't think of it as half of your month stuck in your room, think of it as half of your month learning about your inner creativity, and half of your month using your creativity in the world. Even if you don't think you are creative, there is always time to discover something new.

Answer 4

Well how long are you grounded for?
Just be thankfull that you don't get physically punished,
Belted or hit. There are way worse than being grounded!
To get out of being grounded earleir, I would just act sensible.
Sorry to say but i think screaming and bawling will only
Get you in more trouble!

Answer 5

I'm a mom. I assure you that you could cry all day and it wouldn't make a difference to me.

I occasionally end groundings early, and its when my son doesn't drive me crazy about it and makes an effort to do the right thing.

Answer 6

crying heavily, groveling, screaming possibly but only if they wont ground u for longer, or u culd just do some major sucking up.
extreme: claim that u r dying of lonliness and start to speak to urself wen they are around, and sound very angry wen u do it. wen they question u, lose your mind and scream about how you don't know wat they're talking about and how u r a lonley child and need someone t talk to. play with knives like u are being seduced by them.

dont bother though if u arent a good actor. ull just get into more trouble. possibly therapy.

Answer 7

No, dealing with it. You probly did something wrong and deserve the punishment

Answer 8

Suck it up. Crying when you don't get your way is for 3yo'ds.

Answer 9

What is your punishment? If it is real bad, maybe you will learn not to do it again.

Do it and get it over with.

Answer 10

i got grounded like for 1 month no tv. but my mom let me watch when my dad wasnt home !! lol