Let me give ya a little history! We've been together about 7 months (not a long long time, I know), but he's basically living with me anyway. I trust him 100%. He's responsible as am I. He's graduating college in Dec, and I'm starting a nursing degree in Jan.
I told him earlier in the relationship that I would never live with another bf again(tried it once, absolutely didn't work out.) I don't fore-see any drama or strains on our relationship if we were to move in. He isn't pressuring me, but he's talking about getting his own place cuz we simply don't have enough room here. (He's 22 and lived at home before we met) I can't bare the thought of him moving as we have ridiculous schedules and we hardly see each other as it is.
We're talking about our futures and I really see myself marrying him one day....pref sooner than later (I'm 25 and would like kids before 30 hits, but if I have to wait I will).
Sooo, long story short--in the long run, would it be wise to move inor not?
2007-10-27 10:25:55 · 28 answers · asked by belle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks to all that have answered! I still have no idea what to do, as both sides have strong arguements!
2007-10-27 10:50:41 · update #1
Sounds to me like you're ready .... does he know the bad experience you had with your previous live-in boyfriend?... maybe you should tell him you're a little apprehensive because of past experiences and that you'd like an option to call it all off if it turns sour .... as long as you're the one in control ... do it .. you aint gettin' any younger :)
Good Luck
2007-10-27 10:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. As long as your both responsible and set the rule up front (who pays whats..chores that need to be done) it should be fine. I moved in with my girlfriend and it was rocky at first because I made more than she did and after splitting the bills she didn't have much left so I felt I had to put in more than she did. I was also a little more sloppy then she was and that led to arguements. But we worked those out and everything from a living arrangement was fine. We ended breaking up..but it didn't have anything to do with us moving in together. Personally, I'd rather live with someone first before I tied the knot. It certainley gives you a great perspective of what the future might be like.
2007-10-27 10:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cubsfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you said you would never live with another BF, never was a mighty short time wasn't it. You can judge him better than we can. Is there a feeling anywhere that it may be a mistake? What is he going to do after December? You have to judge what the possibility of Him getting a job and moving away are. Your going to have enough to do in school. You are entering a field that changes everyday but patient care is vitally important. I just want to have you look at the possibility of him not being there. And what that would do to your ability to pay your bills and go to school. Isn't that the most important thing to you? Good luck, and thank you for picking a profession that helps so many people when they need it.
2007-10-27 10:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should only move in with him if you are definite that this relationship will last. I mean you probably felt the same way with the other person you moved in with that didn't work out. You should try to learn from your mistakes and make sure it doesn't happen again. If you have no doubts in him, and you are in the point of the relationship where you need to take it to the next step, then it would be time.
2007-10-27 10:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by X X 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY consideration would be.......
when he graduates in December...
Is he planning on staying in the immediate area, to utilize his degree,
and
the school you are going to attend for nursing, is it located in the same region, where you both can be happy, and not have to face moving?
If it were me, I woulld tough it out, until he is graduated, and has secured employment. Making sure there will be no problem.
It seems it is less than 2 monts, and if you have been "together" for 7 months, 2 more would not make any difference.
Good Luck to both of you.
2007-10-27 10:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rudy J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No let him get his own place. He hasn't lived on his own so this is a good opportunity for him to learn to be responsible and independent. Besides most live in relationships rarely lead to marriage. Take things slow and continue to get to know each other and strengthen your relationship, 7 months is a short time.
2007-10-27 10:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, especially if you are hoping to marry him, you had better get a feel for his living habits. If you decide to move in with him, the make sure not to make any joint purchases that way there is a clear division of personal property should it not work out. If you feel the way you do with him, then it is worth a shot.
2007-10-27 10:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking for opinions, I will give you mine. I would say "no." Seven months is a short time to move in together. You don't have problems now but you are not living together.
Why not just wait and get married? The problem of living together is that you have the act of marriage but without the commitment.
2007-10-27 10:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by prairieprincess 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, as you said...You've done it before...so, I mean you're aware of all of the negative feedback your obviously going to get from others. What I say? I mean, go for it. If you trust him...do it. BUT living with someone...that's a lot especially considering you've only been dating the guy for what...7 months. You really don't know him THAT well. Eh, I say no...do what you feel is right my dear.
2007-10-27 10:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move in only when you both feel it is right. Talk with him and both of you need to decide, together, if you two should live together. That way neither of you feel rushed. Personally I think you should if you want to see him more often, but that is my opinion and my first option for you is to talk with him about it.
2007-10-27 10:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Chris457 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋