My mom is supportive in my conversion to Judaism, but only because she thinks I will discover Jesus is the true messiah. That is NOT why I am converting. I don't believe he is! She thinks I will turn on the beauty and truth I have found and go the completely opposite way! I said,"Well, I guess I'll have to get used to people throwing Jesus in my face." To which she responded, "Don't talk about him like that!" I told her it was her opinion that he was the messiah, and she said it was not her opinion, it is a fact. But I know for a fact that he was not. Gentiles distorted the Hebrew scriptures to fit THEM and their lifestyles. Christianity is completely pagan, and I don't want to be pagan. The messiah does not proclaim himself like Jesus did, and virgin births are from the pagan beliefs of gods impregnating human women. The messiah is not supposed to be worshiped, only G-d. I love my mom very much, and I will no longer argue with her about this. How can I avoid altercation with her?
2007-10-27 10:23:03 · 8 answers · asked by scottishbeauty 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It really makes my skin crawl when she talks about Jesus and how I should know that he is my "lord"!
2007-10-27 10:24:08 · update #1
I don't live with my mother, I am 24 and have children. I see her when I drop them off for her to visit...and she tells them about Jesus...
2007-10-27 13:28:38 · update #2
You've got to separate yourself- and your feelings for your mother- from the truth and what you know. The best thing to do is to calmly agree not to discuss it. If she says she can't do that, try suggesting you not discuss it 'just for one year'. In that year, as she sees you go through the cycle of Jewish life and holidays, and (hopefully) be fulfilled and happy doing such, she will (again hopefully) be able to put her own wishes aside enough to respect your beliefs and the peace you (and yet once more!- hopefully) find in your practices to at least listen to your point of view. Good luck.
BTW I get the impression you are pretty young and live with your mother. If that impression is correct, I can only say, it might be best if you did not live with her. It's kind of hard to practice Judaism in a gentile house, and it may make her more aggressive on the 'jezus' issue. The goal here is to maintain your relationship, not destroy it.
There are also resources specifically for converts. Have you seen any? Anita Diamonte has written a book, there are websites etc. You should take advantage of these, YOU are who they are meant for!
***NO ONE has a right to proselytize to someone else's children. You need to find a way to straighten that out quickly or she's going to have them very confused and if they belive her, even untrusting of you. Again, you really need to find resources for that, it's a big issue. That, I'm sure, your rabbi could help you with as it's bound to happen quite often- remember that according to what your mother believes you are 'dooming yourself' (and probably your children) to 'eternal hell'. Of course she probably doesn't realize how disrespectful she's being to you, or how absurd the notion of eternal hell and xtianity and general is.
2007-10-27 11:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that she is supportive of your decision and try not to talk to her about what you're learning. I converted a few years ago and was so excited by the things I was learning that I couldn't keep from telling everyone I met, but they really don't want to know!
The first Christmas season was also difficult for me. I almost hated to check out at any checkout counters because I knew they would wish me a Merry Christmas. It doesn't bother me so much any more, but sometimes I just can't help myself as I wish them a Happy Chanukkah!
It will also become more clear to you that Christianity isn't about Jesus, it's about Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny.
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2007-10-27 19:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Hatikvah 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If anything the more you learn about Judaism the more it makes sense that Jesus is not the messiah, why do you think only Jews with no Orthodox religious background become Christians?
2007-10-29 15:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The part about your children being taught by your mother about Jesus concerns me the most.
As an adult you need to put your foot down with your mother. You have to tell her, respectfully, that if she cannot avoid talking about religion around your kids then she cannot see them anymore.
As for yourself, I suggest that you agree to disagree with your mother. It is clear neither of you are changing your minds and are happy where they are. Just simply do not talk about religion.
2007-10-28 01:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Gamla Joe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way to do this. You could try telling her that your religious beliefs are your business and nobody else's, but if she's anything like you make her out to be, she probably won't agree with that. The best thing to do would most likely be to grin and bear it, and avoid talking about religion.
2007-10-27 17:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you're planning on converting then you know that you'll need to do this with a rabbi. My guess is that you won't be the first person that has come to the rabbi with this question. I think you should ask him/her for help with this very difficult issue. Best of luck!
2007-10-27 17:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mark S, JPAA 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can I help you?
2007-10-27 17:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by fatandsmooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JESUS IS THE MESSIAH.........................and on that day you will bow down before his name and confess he is lord......God had to come down in flesh cause he is a spirit and if we seen him we will just die..........so he had to come down from his kingdom to show us the way............he is the great...................I AM THAT I AM................
2007-10-27 17:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by smiles 1 · 0⤊ 9⤋