How do I handle my daughter??

Question

My youngest daughter just went off to college this past August. All 3 of my other children had no problem with college but my youngest is having a very hard time. I am worried she may be going through a depression.

She is giving it one more semester before she decides if she is going to transfer next year or not but I am still very concerned.

I know she is not passing one of her classes, wouldn't even get up to go to her other class the other day, and is now a weight of about 90 pounds. She lost 5 pounds and that's a concern to me as a mother.

Should I take her out of college next semester to allow her to go a to a community college??

I know next semester she is staying with a girl she met through the internet who could not get into the college until next semester!

I'm still concerned though!!
Should I put her in a community college for a semester??

Answer 1

If she feels as though she has tried her best and the work is too much yes. as an recent community college student the transition from community college to a university/college is not easy. But if she wants to continue with her schooling and wants to transfer let her but also let her know that she has to get through school, and just because she is transferring doesn't mean that the work will be any easier than it was at a university.

Answer 2

Community college only works for those who are really determined to finish school or otherwise they become a 30-year old sophomore who can't get their AA. It could be other things bothering her besides college. Sit down and talk with her and see what she wants to do. I got my AA (3 1/2 years) at a community college and BA (2 years - I worked hard) at a California State University.