My long-distance boyfriend and I are are temporarily separated due to his job assignment in California. I havent seen him in 4 months. We used to talk several times every day. The past couple of weeks he has been very quiet, barely calling me. He suffers from depression and sometimes isolates himself but always calls me after a few days. I became really emotional a week ago and left him a voicemail saying I didnt know how he felt about me anymore and that I wanted to move on unless he could be straightforward with me and tell me what he really wants. The next day I felt bad for being rude so I left him another voicemail explaining I was sorry, just that I am emotional and depressed myself in that I miss him so much and havent seen him for so long. It has been over a week and he has not responded to me at all.
I love him so much that it hurts to think of him never speaking to me again. How much time should I let pass before giving up all hope he will call me?
2007-10-27 09:50:22 · 7 answers · asked by Sad Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never give up hope ever. He will come through if he truly cares about you. I care about my ex still and i still care about her and i wont give up hope that i will get her back. So you dont and i wont. If he cares he'll call
2007-10-27 09:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by GameTime*HitHard* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let the thing lie, is my opinion. He'll contact you, if there's something to say on his end. If you have a relationship, he should at least do that. I mean, all women expect from a dude is that he have the balls to end a relationship with us with the same respect, interest and consideration he had when entering and engaging with us in the first place.
Men don't generally like to be "forced" into responding to women's emotions in an immediate way because they don't process those feelings the same way we do, or as quickly. If your long-distance boyfriend is already susceptible to depression, your onslaught of feelings might have been too overwhelming to deal with on "your time clock". And take into consideration that he's on assignment, dealing with pressures of being away from home, working. His career is on the line, as well as his relationship with you. Men will generally let the job take precedence, not because he's lost interest in you, but because it's the more immediate concern (i.e., you're here, the job's there where he is).
Of course, I hate to say it, but if he doesn't contact you, that's your answer to pretty much everything you'd want to know. But you have to let up and give him time to make that choice, if he hasn't already.
2007-10-27 10:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe he found somebody here in california. normally
if you love somebody, you would miss the person so much
and would call you daily. if he remains true to you, he should
have contuinally call you every other day or two. but if he is silent for a while, then he must be busy with something. you
know sometimes long distance relationship wont work for
everybody. you need trust, sincerity ,a lot of love, commitment
and self sacrifice. good luck
2007-10-27 09:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'll tell you that maybe what he has to say he don't want to say over the phone give him a chance and give him some time... try and arrange for some time alone with him and see what happens. because i didn't call my girl for a whole week. this week i didn't but see i'm right here in her house right now waiting for her to let me back in her life becaues we have some issues that is messing everything right now. so the best way to fix a problem is in person.
2007-10-27 09:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by mixed_brother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him another week or so. And if he doesn't call you then move on b/c he obviously doesn't care enough to respond to you.
2007-10-27 09:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound too needy. You should move on with our life . . . because it sounds like he's moved on with his. Move on and keep busy and in time if he's really interested he'll let you know, but don't sit there like a puppy dog.
2007-10-27 09:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me i would just call him again and if he answers or not tell him or leave a voice mail saying.......... if you really dont want to talk to me then dont but just to let you know i really love you and i hope you do plaese call me or let me know. i need to know. if you dont contact me like in a week or so then i guess i will just assume you want to have nothing to do with me or dont like me anymore, i just really need to know what is goin on, ok please call me! bye!.... thats what i would do but uts totally up to you...you know how you feel!
hope it al works out!
2007-10-27 09:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋