This morning I went downstairs to get something to eat. My dad was also downstairs on a business call. My grandmother stood there just staring. I knew she wanted to say something but I didn't know it would be this bad. She basically accused my dad and I for "being too close". Closer than a father and daughter normally would. And I thought to myself, that is some bullshit. If you take all the minutes that I speak to my dad out of the day and add them all up, you'd get about 10 minutes out of 24 hours. She was saying stuff like I wear skimpy clothes around the house (pajama shorts which aren't even that short) and when I go to sit on the couch, I "pass my father to go sit on the couch." Then she was saying things like "People tell me I should have been a police officer because I am very observant." I was like thinking to myself again who the f*** cares? Then she tried to give me money. She hasn't apologized at all either. I told her I wasn't taking the money because I was mad at her.
2007-10-27 09:20:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She said she figured I would be mad at her because I'm always mad. Well who the hell wouldn't be mad if your grandmother accused her son and your father of being a child molestor basically. But I took the money anyways so she could shut the hell up. I'm still mad, and I don't know if I could forgive her.
2007-10-27 09:22:03 · update #1
Oh and I'm 14 and my dad's 50 if that helps at all. So that would be gross to me anyway.
2007-10-27 09:27:58 · update #2
Oh, my dad was in the room when she said it because she started the conversation off by saying "I think you and Aleema are too close."
2007-10-27 09:29:38 · update #3
Actually Michael, it's the other way around. She lives with US.
It's me, my mom, my dad, my little sister and my grandmother who came to live with us.
2007-10-27 14:13:02 · update #4
She's old, she's losing her mind. Of course she was out of line but old people often are and don't even know it. Pay no attention to her if this is the way she acts.
2007-10-27 09:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandma certainly sounds like she is very suspicious of your relationship with your dad. Remember though that times have changed a lot since Granny was a kid and so have fashions and the way we speak and dress in front of adults. When you have settled down a bit and aren't as angry why not attempt to have a mature conversation with her and tell her how hurtful you found her comments. Also tell her how much interaction you actually do have with your dad and that there is nothing inappropriate at all going on in the relationship between you and your father. Sometimes people speak without thinking how it is going to affect others and hopefully this is all that has happened with your Granny. Best of luck.
2007-10-27 16:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father what she said, that is way out of line. She is definitely jealous of the fact that your dad loves you and the two of you are close. Your Grandmother needs to go away! Tell your dad and tell him how it made you feel. I would be willing to bet he has a few things to say to old grandma :)
2007-10-27 16:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by I CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
woah... that's not cool of your grandma. she was way out of line for sure. i think she's not used to the generation where us teens wear clothes that shows some skin. i don't know how she could say you guys are too close when you only talk to him ten minutes out of twenty four hours. im really sorry you're going through this. it must really suck. if i were you i would forgive your grandma. at least you know that she cares for you and don't want this to happen. even though it's way out of line, forgive her. she's old. you could forgive but not forget. hope things get better
2007-10-27 16:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by § § uɐʎɹ § § 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father he should be a man and provide a home for his daughter and not live in his mother's house.
2007-10-27 20:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be. People think a lot of stuff. Just ignore her. The last thing you would ned to be doing is getting in a fight with your grandma.. now thats Low
2007-10-27 16:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by ~LaurenRose~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she was totally out of line, but it is your father's responsibility to confront her on this, and tell her so. if he doesn't then it's his fault if it continues, as well as hers. as for you, you should forgive her, for your own sake. not forgiving her will only make you angry, and bitter, and take away your joy in life. don't let her do that to you, just forgive her and move on, and ignore her any time she does it again.
2007-10-27 16:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandma is acting like a abuse victim Are you sure she was never abuse by her own father or a close sibbling /
2007-10-27 16:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she was. Thats dumb. I would ignore her until she apologized to me.
2007-10-27 18:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by Zachary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa that was very out of line.
she should have not said that.
2007-10-27 16:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by dinosawr_x_love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋