I moved to a place where I didn't want my family to know because we have a big history of not getting along. My brother surprisingly moved into town from another state & he's trying to leech off of people for free. He terrorized my twin sister's house & now he plans to do it to me. He talks about me like I'm the scum of the earth but wants to live underneath me for free & tag his meddlesome girlfriend along.
Well, yesterday I found out he was in town & I ended up giving him my address, not knowing he was planning to take advantage of me & then my twin sister told me about the dirt he did her & plans to do me 10 times worse. I'm afraid he's gonna do me like he did me before by putting his stuff in my house & claiming my address & messing up my SSI benefits & living with someone else.
I was so afraid yesterday I had an anxiety attack. When he knocks @ my door, what should I do? My friend told me to ignore him.
2007-10-27 08:44:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do not let him into your place at all if he comes over. I know he is your brother and you may want to let him in to visit but if he wants to take advantage of you then don't even take the chance or you may be sorry later. If he tries to have any mail sent to your house, then return it by writing "not at this address" on it and dropping it back into the mail. Let him know that you talked to your sister and he is NOT going to do the same thing to you.
The best of luck to you. Be careful and protect yourself.
2007-10-27 12:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you gave him your address doesn't mean that you issued him an invitation and, if you did you still can cancel it. Your brother can't move in with you without YOUR permission. DON'T give it. If you're interested in seeing him, tell him you will meet him some place for dinner but your home is off limits to him. Make it clear that he is not welcome to stay at your house, not one day. Nobody is going to believe what he says about you, so ignore it. You are not obligated to open your door to anyone that you haven't personally invited to your home. If you don't want to see him, ignore his visits and phone calls and DON'T FEEL GUILT FOR DOING IT.
If he starts harrassing you, call the Police, and file a complaint.
2007-10-27 16:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by Laredo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just call the police if he tries to stay. They will make him go. If he keeps contacting you call the police. They will get a restraining order for you. Family or not, don't let him sponge off of you! Don't be his victim
2007-10-27 16:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by I CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the police over, especially if he doesn't leave. The police can just help escort him away. That's probably the best thing to do.
2007-10-27 16:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Zach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Begin by telling him that he isn't welcome and that if he doesn't leave your property you will charge him with trespass.
You will then need to take the necessary legal steps, in you state or country
2007-10-27 17:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋