Me and my ex broke up 3 weeks ago , we was together 2 years
i am 23 he is 26, we both work together in a big call centre where everyone is really clicky and knows everyones business
anyway we broke up it just wasnt working out anymore (arguing etc)
we have text a few times which ended up in us sleeping together each time which i knew in my heart was wrong as we was never going to be together again , so to really put an end to things i told him i have a boyfriend and that im with someone else now. he replied back that he is too , ( its a girl that works at our workplace i sit near her and have to see her everyday , any way i have to now see them togather he is always around her she is pretty , im so upset how can he do this to me with somewone that works with us , im hurting so bad i feel like rippin my guts out it hurts so bad i feel sick with it all , when i see them together it feels like my heart stops beating i start shaking and feel physicaly sick.all i do is cry ..
2007-10-27 08:44:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can concentrate at work because of them im just a mess
i wish i was stronger but im not. he text saying he doesnt want to be in touch anymore because he doesnt wanna upset his girlfriend and she doesnt agree with etc
iv still said im with someone when im not just so i dont look like no one wants me but im not im so lonely without him i cant eat, sleep or anything
all i think about is him with someone else it taers me up inside
i have worked at the cal centre for 3 years the same lenghth of time that he has , i feel like quiting my job i cant handle this anymore please help me
thanks becs xx
2007-10-27 08:44:32 · update #1
Find a different job, go out on weekends and take some classes or something to get your mind off of him. You are an incredible woman and you deserve better than the treatment you have recieved. Good luck.
2007-10-27 08:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by dragonbot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it's in your best interest to move on to another job, I would do it. Sitting in the same room as someone who once meant everything to you, and is essentially emotionally abusing you is not going to help you right now, nor in the long run.
Another thing you could do is maybe seek guidance help. I know, it seems like its the ultimate low thing to do, but they really do help you close those deep wounds...
But I also advise that you don't pretend to be in a relationship. I'm sure he probably knows better, and it's just not a good thing to mess with yourself and your confidence like that. The boyfriend thing should definitely go on hold for a while, you don't need to have a rebound or make a guy less appreciated then he should be.
If there is another great job oppurtunity, take it. And just remember for next time-- dating in the work place usually never works.
Anyway, best of luck for you.
2007-10-27 15:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Questionable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to HR. If they have any sort of concern for the employees (and in these dark times, it is possible that this is not the case), they should be able to help you somehow, find a different position or at least a different seat, shift your hours, something to ease the awkwardness, because right now you're feeling your workplace is hostile.
2007-10-27 16:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you want to get over this, you got to stop thinking bout him. Go see other people! Seeing him after you guys broke up is not a bright thing to do. After my g/f broke up with me and was dating someone else, she called me to see how ive been. I told her exactly this... "Why are you calling me? Im trying to forget about you! Dont call me again!" She said she felt weird not talkin to me so... long story short, she could not take it anymore without me so she begged me to take her back! My point of all this is, you broke up, move on!! Don't look back not even a tad! Goodluck!
2007-10-27 15:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Paulie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't quit your job unless you have a nw and better one lined up.. Happiness is the best revenge.. Let him go and move on yourself!! I know it's hard but their are other men out there waiting to meet a girl like you!
2007-10-27 15:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by enquiring mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let some stupid GUY ruin your life he is nothing if he don't' want to be with you than that's ion hi he is missing out not you so don't bet yourself up about this i know it hurts i know i been there but i got over it it took me a while but i did it i was just like you i did what you r doing now but then i finally got tired of crying all the time so i told my self that i didn't need him that i was better than that and i deserve better so that's when i move on and now we don't talk but we still c each other around all the time BUT I KNOW THAT I DON'T KNOW YOU BUT I KNOW YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN HIM I KNOW YOU KNOW THAT YOU CAN GET OVER HIM I KNOW YOU CAN I HAVE FAITH IN YOU AND AND I KNOW YOU HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF BUT U JUST NEED TO DIG IT OUT TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU DON'T NEED HIM THAT YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN HIM YOU KNOW YOU CAN (GOOD LUCK :) :) :) :))
2007-10-27 15:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. He was wrong to treat you that way. She is also wrong--you don't steal another person's mate.
Try this:
http://www.therulesbook.com
If it makes you feel any better, you are not alone.
2007-10-27 15:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Poet G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋