My bf said he has a chance to work on a cruise ship for a year,he has 10days to decide,the waiting is going to be hard,should i tell him to walk from me now rather than get hurt more and linger it on?
2007-10-27 08:06:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hun ask your heart it is more faithful and honest for this answer.for me..if u can stay without sex for a year u may wait nad it will b fine.if u cant appoligize and say that this is more than u able to stand
2007-10-27 09:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by bldysurgeon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go with no strings attached. The temptation is going to be high for the both of you being seperated for the year. If, when he comes home and he still wants to be with you, pick it up and see where it goes. If he met someone else or you have too, stick with them. If you are together and he does stray, it is going to hurt more. Plus, a break will give you the freedom to have some fun also. If you do decide to get back together when he returns, make a bargain not to discuss what happened while you were apart. It will only lead to hurt feelings. Trust me, long distance and phone dating is very hard. Sometimes you or the other will not be able to get a hold of each other and it will be bad for both of you. You might say some things you don't mean and it will be hard to take them back if you don't see each other. Spend some good time together before he leaves to send him off on good terms. If it is meant to be, it will be.
2007-10-27 15:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by pixie22406 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it mostly matters how you feel about him going. A year isn't a long time - whose to say he wants to end it. I've endured lond distance situations for that long. It isn't fun, but it isn't the end of the wolrd.
If you tell him, it is over - do you think he will base his decision on that? If he stays to try and keep you, will he regret the missed opportunity later?
I would wait and see what happens...no need to approach it yet.
2007-10-27 15:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rabbit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll miss him.
Actually going on a cruise ship is better for a young man than stayine with a girl friend.
Let him go and take his chances on finding you waiting for him.
2007-10-27 15:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are you? Don't break up just tell him the truth or the facts you're young and other guys might take an interest in you & you might not be single when he gets back or you can just get your parents to sign the papers allwing you to get married. How serious are you with this guy? You'ree young explore, don't get tied up so early in life.
2007-10-27 15:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would end things now because if i wasn't that in love with him then i would end things so that i would have a chance to meet new people and hopefully someone better. but if i was really in love with the guy then it would probaby be too hard to be away from them for that long. i hope this helps and good luck with everything. (:
2007-10-27 15:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by shutupxandxsmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Does he love you? Is he worth waiting for? If you answered no to any of these questions, then break it off. If he is the right person for you and if the situation is still right, you can always pick up where you left off when he returns.
2007-10-27 15:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end things but on good terms. Tell him that a year is just too long and you don't want to be the reason for him not to take a job.
GOOD LUCK
2007-10-27 15:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy i can tell you that, unless this is a really clingy relationship, you should. relationships can not take that distance without both people being fully into keeping themselves together, and i no ive been in alot of long distance relationships. my advice is, yes, you should end things. but be nice when you do.
2007-10-27 15:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say absence makes the heart grow fonder....but in a year people change and if you stay with him and he comes back in a year with a different mentality and just wants to be your friend...then you have just wasted a year of your life.....you need to make sure you "LOVE" him.....because if you do then its good that you wait so you can test your loyalty to him for you not him.... but if you dont....you'll find someone in a year...or he might and so you realize you dont really love him.....so dont listen to your heart.....be smart about it....for the both of you!! hope i helped! good luck
2007-10-27 15:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by ashley l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋