i do not knoe what to do i dont really trust him and it makes me mad because he has tryed to change and he start ti drink again and i dont know what to do i dont know if to trust him or not or if i am going to get hurt agin i want him to be here for my family and to see his grandchildern but i dont know what to do
2007-10-27 07:57:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should be happy for him and try to support him in his decision. It sounds like he's had to deal with a lot, and having you there keeping him on the straight and narrow for his own good may be the thing keeping him from falling back to square one.
Good luck!
2007-10-27 08:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even the bible says that your first repsonability is to your wife, then children, then other family members. So they come first. I would suggest always being there for him when he needs you but that does not mean that you have to invest any trust in him. That way it wont hurt so bad if he loses his way again. Just be there for him as much as you can without foresaking your own family or thier wellfare. But you dont have to be close to your parents to love them. I know because I am in the same situation. Just because he's your Dad doesnt mean you owe him anything except respect. And you dont have to put your self out on a limb to give that. God can move mountains, but some mountains dont want to be moved. Until a person changes in his heart, hes changes will not last.
2007-10-27 15:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by mjefferson96 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Nicole! There is only one truth where alcoholics are concerned. THEY ARE LIERS!!!
If he says he found Jesus, or God, or both, & he is still drinking, and has a past as an alcoholic, then all he's doing is trying to con you (maybe even himself).
I know you desperately want him there for his grandchildren. That is a worthy desire!
But if he thinks that all he has to do is use gods name to win back your trust then he isn't worthy of your trust.
He has to earn it back the only way an alcoholic who has severely affected his children can.
With healthy choices & behaviours, & healing with time.
God won't save him from the hurt he has caused you, only your dad can do that!
2007-10-27 15:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he got saved by God...The you should trust him... You should trust that God is going to heal him of all his problems... God is SOOO Awsome and if you have faith that your dad will do good then he WILL... And if your dad has faith that he is doing good then God will be with him every step of the way no matter what... It all come down to faith... May God bless you and your family! I will keep yall in my prayers!
2007-10-27 15:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a chance and see if he wants to go to church with you. if you dont attend one then check some out together. this will be the test to see if hes for real or not.
2007-10-27 15:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oops!
2007-10-31 14:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by isabdelis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋