Do you think doing a dollar dance at a wedding is just asking for more money. I want to do one and I also would like some suggestions about what song I could dance to. But most inprotanly I would like to know do you think if I do a dollar dance its like begging?
2007-10-27 07:17:38 · 35 answers · asked by marm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, it's a game and if they don't want to pay the dollar for the dance. . . then they shouldn't participate.
2007-10-27 07:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well i have never been to a wedding where there wasn't a dollar dance. I just thought it was a tradition. I don't see it as begging, but if you do you can give things to people as they go up to dance with the bride and groom. For example i have been to weddings where you get a miniature candy bars like the kind at Halloween or shots of alcohol(jello shots). I personally don't see it like that, and i think it give the invites time to say congratulations to the couple since they probably wouldn't have time otherwise, since are so occupied during the reception.
2007-10-28 02:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by Maria L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The dollar dance is a tradition started by immigrant families to make sure that the poor young couple had a few extra dollars to spend on their honeymoon.
If you want (or need) to do it - then that's your choice. It's not something I did at my wedding even though it was suggested to me by my Italian mother-in-law. We certainly didn't need the money and thought it would be something my family just wouldn't understand.
Some of your guests will think it fun - some will think it tacky.
Things for you to think about -
- where will you put the money? will you carry a small purse to put the dollars in?
- how will you feel if you don't get many takers? We rarely carry alot of cash to a wedding - and certainly don't carry small bills to one. Unless it's been a big family tradition - most people won't plan on it.
- will you have time during your reception to add in another scheduled dance? I found that my reception went too fast - we took up alot of time doing the first & parent's dance, the bouquet toss, garter toss, cake cutting, toasts....all of it took a long time and I'd have liked to have more time to just visit with all my guests in a more informal way.
What ever you decide - have fun at your wedding and reception - the day just flies by and it'll be over before you know it.
Good luck and congrats!
2007-10-27 08:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mirage 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is tacky, tacky, tacky.
Why so? Why do people on here say...."it's a way to help pay for the wedding?" Since when should the guests at YOUR wedding help pay? And then others say...."it's a way to dance with your guests." OK....ummmmmm.....why doesn't the DJ just announce "anyone wanting to dance with the bride and groom, may do so now!!!" Why do people have to pay a $1? Why do people think..."it's a way to mingle with your guests and thank them for coming." Well, OK.....what's wrong with the bride and groom walking around and chatting some with their guests. That shows some class, not lack thereof!
I live in a small town and this is done which I absolutely HATE. All the good slow songs are played during this time, then, of course, never played again for the night so that's it!
And, depending on how many guests, I have seen this go on for 30-45 minutes! It's ridiculous.
What's next....charging your guests at the door like a movie theater?
2007-10-27 13:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I personally do not like the dollar a dance tradition carried on at some weddings, but for some it is a tradition. If you want to do it do it, but yes, it is like begging for dollars. Your guests already are expected to bring a gift I assume.
As for music....Talk to your DJ and he will help you decide which songs will work the best.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
2007-10-27 07:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by dddanse 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In some cultures it's tradition. Unfortunately many greedy couples have bastardized that tradition and made it a bad thing because they heard about it on a wedding webiste and decided it would be an awesome way to milk their guests some more.
If you havn't seen it at three family weddings other than your own it's not part of your culture and you are going to seen as a greedy, money-grubbing couple.
For us it's definately part of my HTB's culture but it is not in my family. Instead i am providing cards with little envelopes. Guests will write advice on the cards and if they want to slip some cash they can. That way nobody knows who gave, who didn't, or how much and the people who it is non-traditional for won't feel offended but his culture is still honored.
2007-10-27 09:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We don't do dollar dances in the UK, so it's not something I would consider doing, to me it seems like begging. Your guests will more than likely have bought you a gift, they have spared the time to come and celebrate with you, probably paid for travel and/or accommodation, don't ask them to shell out more money like that.
2007-10-29 01:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently heard of this dance. Personally, I think it screams "We paid a fortune and we need your money on top of your gifts to pay it off!"
I think it sounds a little greedy like begging yes. I would only do one if I took the money and donated it to a good cause, but I would let everyone know where the money is going ahead of time.
2007-10-27 08:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in maximum circumstances, something which you do or say, in terms of a marriage, that ultimately asks visitors to offer presents or funds is questionable to declare the least. besides the actuality that visitors oftentimes do supply something to the couple, the assumption is that it quite is given freely and of their very own selecting, and not b/c they have been asked for it, or reminded of it, or goaded into it. while people who're no longer from a subculture the place those traditions are estimated, which includes Polish, Italian, Greek, etc., they do no longer comprehend that every person will come arranged for the dance. they are going to assume it to be completed. maximum individuals will in basic terms understand what I quite have stated beforehand; that it is not in stable flavor. So, bypass a splash elementary on people who're the two no longer conscious of the dollar dance or those whose cultures do no longer often incorporate it. they only are not getting it, it quite is all!
2016-10-02 22:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by dawber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not! Dollar Dances are very popular and it's a way for the family and friends to give a little more for the bride and groom. If someone doesn't want to spend the money, they just won't dance. Most everyone has a great time doing this and give there money like it's candy.
2007-10-27 10:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Hernandez 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It doesn't seem like begging, but it does seem sexist to sell dances with the bride at her wedding. The idea of my father and new husband watching fondly as I danced with their friends and family in order to support our new household skeeves me out. I've also never seen it done before, so I might have a skewed picture in my head. I think it's an old tradition with a history of it's own, but a history that I think is inappropriate in modern times.
If, however, you have both the bride and groom participating, it's different. That eliminates the gender politics and leaves you with just the issue of whether or not it would seem tacky -- and I don't think it's tacky if both bride and groom are participating.
2007-10-27 07:37:41 · answer #11 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋