I'm 26 and i am getting tired of faking it in bed. I've been with my man for 4 years and I love him. But I hate it that he wants sex all the time but I don't. I don't have interest in it because it don't feel good to me. It's not him because I've been like this since I lost my virginity at a young age. I want to fix it and don't say it's all in my head, I know it's something medical. anyway I'm serious about this and need some help.
2007-10-27 05:20:45 · 10 answers · asked by sjrosario82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, the enjoyment of sexuality is mostly in the mind.
Just because you don't enjoy it does not mean you can't have some fun, add some aspect that you would find fun to the sex. A little role play, or some chocolate sauce and whip cream to the oral (assuming you like chocolate) Or just a large quantity of romance. You may not enjoy sex but everything leading up to it can be great.
2007-10-27 05:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Vultureman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could firstly discuss these feelings with your boyfriend. Then either both or just you could go and seek the help of a professional sex therapist. They may very well unveil something in your past that has been having an impact on how you are currently viewing your sexual lifestyle. An open and honest communication is needed in all successful relationships and I'm certain that your man would not only be very interested in knowing how you feel but also attempt to help you find help. There is nothing to be ashamed of as we all lose a bit of interest somewhere along the line in all relationships. But that said when things do become stagnant and/or appear to be souring is the time to discuss and attempt to make things right and/or more emotional in this area of the relationship. Best of luck.
2007-10-27 05:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what turns you on...finding the places on your body that you like to be touched is helpful...the best way to do this is by exploring your body yourself...give yourself an ogasm (if you can) and keep what you like in your mind...there is no point in hoping that your partner will suddenly know what he is doing...after four years he hasn't but because you have been faking it he thinks he does know what he is doing...you are going to have to talk to him and don't be suprised if he gets all upset with what you tell him...guys just can't handle knowing a woman has been faking it and especially over a long time...like i say...spend some time discovering your own body and then get your partner to caress,kiss,lick,rub these spots...and relax...it is so important to be relaxed if you want to fully enjoy sex...try the link...it tells you about female erogenous zones (sensitive areas on your body)...good luck
2007-10-27 05:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by hanz2602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pop round and see me... you wont be faking it... On a serious note maybe you need to talk, tell him what you have just told us and if it still is the same then consider moving on.. Plenty more fish in the sea.
2007-10-27 05:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Best of British 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try talking to your dr. I believe there is such a medical condition. Also talk to your bf. That way he knows how u feel and could go about things differently. good luck
2007-10-27 05:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by ~*cHrIsTiNe*~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i may be way completely off, but have you ever been abused or molested? the reason i ask is because i have a good friend who was when she was young and she has the same problem. if so you definitely need counseling. sorry if im way off base.
2007-10-27 05:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your bf isn't giving yuo enough passion therefore you feel out of place try doing something different ans see if it works
2007-10-27 05:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Rachele W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be too blunt, but tell him that sex really isn't that great. maybe ask him to take a break from it for awhile. maybe after a short time span, sex might feel really great for you.
2007-10-27 05:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and make it fun, you dont have to have sex all the time, talk to him. If he loves you it wouldt matter what you say to him.
2007-10-27 05:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it all too well, the [thing] which is the "root" of all [sin]. Take this advice: Tell him the truth whether it kills his self-gratification or really kills it for good, one day you will have to face your fear.
2007-10-27 05:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋