Im 16, and for the last year, I have been enamoured with a girl I am really good friends with. Two months ago I told her how I felt and she later told me she didnt feel the same way about me at the time. I was fine with it, but I still had extremely strong feelings for her.
Now it seemed we were getting to know eachother more and more and our relationship was eventually going to turn a corner. Of course my best friend tells her he sort of likes her (he knew I felt the way I did about her) and it turns out she has liked him for two months.
My friend is like a brother to me and we have been best friends for 12 years and he kindly told me he wasnt going to go out with her because he felt guilty, and she said the same thing. Of course this make me seem like a jerk so I told them Id be fine with it.
Heres the thing, my friend is going to ask her out any day now and I feel sick to my stomach every day just thinking about it. Im not happy at all. What should I do or say?
2007-10-27 05:18:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
None of this is any of your business. And nobody is lying to you or cheating on you. You have good honest friends.
If you are grown up enough to be dating, you need to grow up and learn to deal with this sort of thing.
2007-10-27 05:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... unfortunately, despite the nausea I'm sure this will cause, you can't really DO anything about it but wait. People date who they will and unless you physically separate them somehow (and that involve using force, which I cannot condone), they're going to date each other. It sucks but... well... I've been there before and like I said, just stick around, be the good person you've always been, and wait. Don't HOPE for a break up and don't try to sabbotage the relationship, but be patient. Either they break up and you get another opportunity, or they don't and you learn to live with it.
2007-10-27 05:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by ZER0 C00L ••AM••VT•• 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that guy what's up. If he's really your friend and cherishes the friendship much more than anything else, he'll know to back off. this is somewhat of a difficult situation because it's very much possible at this point that you could lose a good friend over some chic. Damn this is tough.
2007-10-27 05:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Class 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let er go, dude, you can't change the course of the stars....your time WILL come, probably when you least expect it. This is a chance for you to show some class, to grow, and to understand some real zen aspects of relationships. Played right you get to have both in your life; played wrong you go home alone....good luck. Hope the next honey is for you.
2007-10-27 05:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by Greg H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, especially for someone your age. If this is your BEST friend, you suck it up, tell him that you are behind him 100%, and try your best to get through it. Girlfriends come and go, but real friends are forever. This person could be a friend for a very long time...he will remember how you handled this. Good Luck!!
2007-10-27 05:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by Emme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are going through this! You should tell your best friend before it is too late that this is affecting you this way!!!!!!! Seriously! Otherwise, your friendship is going to be toast. At least he only sort of likes the girl.
You may never get the girl but at least you are being honest with your BEST friend and being true to yourself. He may go ahead with his plans but, at least you won't be making yourself sick!
2007-10-27 05:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Krista Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's truly your best friend, you would support his decision about asking the girl out. I know it's hard, but since she likes him and he likes her, why shouldn't they get together. You'll find someone.
2007-10-27 05:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by Dreamy™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you love her. thats all you can do. let her know that when she is done with her current b/f you will be waiting for her. I would ignore her too. ignoring someone makes them wonder what they did to deserve it. and maybe she will wake up and see how you really feel
2007-10-27 05:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by wee willie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a other girl...bec.. even u & ur friend will be friends for ever..
2007-10-27 05:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by Dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her.
2007-10-27 05:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by Curious mind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋