2007-10-27 05:05:48 · 9 answers · asked by . 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
nope........................you are just comfortable with yourself and that's a good thing.
2007-10-27 05:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are a loner by choice, that decision reveals your life preferences. When you are comfortable with your own company and like to pursue activities that are best done alone, like writing, artwork, practicing an instrument, etc. then more power to you.
If you are a loner because you feel inept or unworthy and you long for human interaction, but somehow you can't quite make it happen, then you might want to seek professional counsel, because this can be an indicator of clinical depression.
Drawing from my own experience, for I am a loner for the most part, being a loner involves a little of both of the above. I have "seasons" of being alone extensively but still have contacts and friends. I'm just not a social butterfly but that gives me time to be introspective or creative.
I think that the operative words here are "balance" and "self-acceptance". Balance your alone times with social activity, enough so as to not create a sense of alienation with the outside world. Be true to yourself and if you find yourself in a state of depression, deal with it by seeking the help you need.
Other than that embrace the unique and beautiful person that you are and worry not, if you don't fall into the norm. I have learned to accept that I tend to be a "loner" and hence I need to take care that I do not fall into a "deep blue funk".
Find your own sense of balance, and if you need help to find it, you're not a complete and entire loner. It has been said "No man is sufficient unto himself." That's just the way God made us, we need each other by design.
2007-10-27 17:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If a girl wants to be a loner then it isn't a problem. If she feels lonely and wants something else then it is certainly worth looking at doing something differently.
2007-10-27 12:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im somewhat of a loner but Im proud that im comfortable within myself and enjoy my own company. As women we live longer and chances are we will outlive our partner anyway, if you're happy there's certainly nothing wrong with it, if not join a club or do some community service.
2007-10-27 12:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's no different from a male loner.
2007-10-27 17:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, the long term problem is when you are older. There will be a time when you will be completely alone. You do not want that. A lot of elderly people are in nursing homes and they are so depressed it's sad to see them that way. No one visits them because they have no family. They never communicated. Or, they were so mean in their younger days that they completely isolated themselves. While your still able to, get out even if you go somewhere by yourself. Do try to make an effort to meet folks. Find a guy, don't be shy about asking him out or for his phone #. Limit your time on the computer. It's not a substitute for human interaction. Good luck. Email me directly if you want to talk about it.
2007-10-27 12:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by The Eagle Keeper 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Nothing wrong with being a girl
Nothing wrong with being a loner
BUT....why do you feel you cannot or dont want to hang with others? Is it them...or is it you?
Try putting yourself out there in a non chalant casual way...not so obvious.
2007-10-27 12:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Her Mama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does gender have to do with loneliness? I'm a girl and I'm somewhat of a loner. It's nothing to be ashamed of but also nothing to be proud of.
2007-10-27 12:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Rima 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no, there are millions of loner girls, but it is sad, sometimes you just can't find a true friend...
2007-10-27 12:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by peachie keen 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋