I'm a teen & on a waiting list for CBT. I was on holiday last week and I'm scared someone may have phoned to arrange an appointment, when the phone was switched off. I'm so desperate for some help that I'm freaking out if I miss a chance. I enjoyed my holiday, but my anxiety ruined some of it. One night, we went to eat out and were placed in the very middle of the room. I hate eating in public, especially where everyone can see me, so I barely ate any of my food and began to feel ill. I felt miserable and disappointed in myself. My parents were angry with me for not eating and obviously forgot that it could have been my anxiety. After that, I was very annoyed and ended up getting into a huge row with my parents over the hotel room key. It was a ridiculous argument, but strangely, I felt like the world had ended or a disaster had happened. I wandered off by myself and sat alone for a while, just staring at the stars and thinking of death. I don't want to die, but strangely...
2007-10-27 04:19:04 · 16 answers · asked by Fercho Ford 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
...I keep thinking of death. It's got to the point where even the most pathetic, smallest thing will get me down. I think the holiday made me feel worse in a way because we went to Disney and I have this thing about growing up. I remember when I was younger and when everything seemed so easy. I was rarely sad and had the confidence to perform a play or read a speech in assembly. Now, I can't even go into assembly without having a panic attack. I used to be amused by the smallest things and now I find most things boring and expect too much from life. It's almost as if I'm searching for something. I'm sick to death of everything. I love my family, have some amazing friends and am generally lucky, but I am missing 2 important things. Happiness and confidence. Sometimes I feel almost like a ghost and as if I'm not existing. I have to let my feelings out, so sorry if this is very long. Thanks if you have read this.
2007-10-27 04:24:30 · update #1
I think you are perfect candidate to read a new book
LIFT YOURSELF UP - A Guide and Companion for the Seeker of Personal Growth by Adi (available on Amazon)
Read it and you will have all your strange questions answered!
2007-10-27 04:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by lovelightume 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is about constant change. And how we react to these changes - is what will make or brake us as human beings emotionally and mentally. When I was younger I would get so stressed out over nothing. Now, at 52 - not much stresses me out. We choose how to feel...in certain circumstances. It's up to each person on how we react to stimulation from other people. Life goes up and down and you just have to go with the flow. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, that is not the answer sweetheart. As far as your anxiety - that is something that you will learn how to control with age. Or medication. I hope you get it together and realize that you are a spacial person and your life is worth living - even though you have arguments with parents. I think everyone had those sometime growing up. The things that you are feeling are normal for your age group. It will get better.......... changes.....nothing stays the same. So look up and know that things will get better. I'll say a prayer for you.
2007-10-27 12:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Providing you are not taking any recreational drugs (which can cause anxiety and paranoia), then this is just a normal feeling. Everybody feels like this at some point in their life, especially during teenage years. You may find that you grow out of it but don't be affraid to go to your doctor and speak to him/her about it. Then can prescribe beta-blocckers which help anxiety but medication is not for everyone. Believe it or not, exercise is a great cure to all sorts of mental problems as it causes endorphines to be released into your brain making you feel happier. I know how you feel as I have felt similar throughout most of my teenage and older years and find that a good diet and exercise really help. Eat lots of fruit and veg and try to do some sort of exercise (at the gym or other sports, or just a long walk or bike ride) at least 3 times a week. If you are taking any drugs (canabis especially) then stop as this can cause massive problems especially if there is a history of psychological problems in your family. Don't despair...there is always a way out.
Good Luck!
2007-10-27 11:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by Cornish_Pasty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any anxieties, and feel you can't talk to your parents, or you don't want to worry them, you could go along to your dotor ant talk to him/her. They will listen and advise you of what help they can offer and what other help there is available, such as counsellors, etc.
Your doctor will treat whatever you say in complete confidence. They are not allowed to tell anyone what you say to them without your consent!
When people wory about some things they can start to think of death. Nothing in our lives is foreverin this life, including life itself!
It is only natural to wonder about death, especially as we will all die one day, but the best thing you can do is focus on life, on making the most of it and being the best person that you can be!
Death isn't the end anyway. We will all either go to heaven or hell for eternity, (suicides straight to hell)! Eternity is the only thing that has no end!
2007-10-27 11:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Watsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and know what it is like to have such intense emotions at that age.
Unfortunately the waiting lists for any kind of talking treatment on the NHS are very long, and it can actually take years to get an appointment through.
I would suggest going back and talking to your GP, he may be able to tell you what the expected waiting time will be for you. If you explain how you are feeling and how it seems to be effecting your day to day life then he may feel it appropriate to offer you some form of medication.
Another suggestion that I strongly believe would help you would be to find your local mental health charity
http://www.mind.org.uk/Mind+in+your+area/
the one I work for has a specific Young Persons Service, which sounds like the thing that would be of most use to you right now. Having good support networks and coping strategies are a vital part of helping yourself.
Ring your local charity when you find out where it is and ask if they have a similar service that you can access, you don't have to referred by anyone else, so it really does only take a phone call.
In the meantime these links to the Mind website may prove useful
Young person's introduction to mental health:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Factsheets/Children/young+persons+introduction+to+mental+health.htm
How to increase your self esteem:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/How+to/How+to+increase+your+self-esteem.htm
Understanding anxiety:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+anxiety.htm
the information is easy to read and understand and will give you some practical tips on how to help yourself as well as links to other sources of help and support.
I hope this helps.
Take care and good luck.
2007-10-27 20:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jules 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you get some really great answers from people that can relate and let you know what works for them. I do know from experience that mental illnesses are real illnesses and can often be treated pharmaceutical. I have been successfully medicated for almost 20 years (no change in my medicine or episodes from my bipolar disorder in that time)
There is also this really neat instruction manual for life put out by the manufacturer known as the Bible. There's some really good stuff in there!
2007-10-27 11:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Too much information 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from. Iam 19 and have had anxiety since I was 16 and I hate it so much. It can ruin your life. Just keep praying that god will help you get threw it. There are so mant things they say will help or cure your anxiety, and Ive tried alot and nothing has worked. You have to change the way you think and try your best to stay positive which is hard.
2007-10-27 11:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try writing down your feelings and then give them to your parents. They would be terribly worried to hear that you feel this way and will give you comfort and support.
Perhaps if you talked to your doctor about how you are feeling, particularly the bit about death, you may find that you are moved up the waiting list.
If you are struggling, try calling the Samaritans - they are there to help you. They are available 24 hours a day: 08457 90 90 90
2007-10-27 11:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by collingbournekingston 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call the place that is supposed to be calling you about CBT. Tell them you are not feeling well and you cannot wait. You need someone to talk to because you are feeling so badly. Hopefully they will call you back right away.
Best Wishes
2007-10-27 11:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by Hopefully Helpful 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to someone you trust about how you feel, is there a sympathetic teacher or family member you could talk to if you cant talk to your parents? There are lots of things you can do to help with anxiety you should really consider seeing your doctor who will be able to offer you some non-judgemental advice but please dont suffer in silence. x
2007-10-27 11:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by Bev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋