Should i just leave???

Question

My mom told me she wants nothing to do with me and said i'm a worthless worm...
this is because my xbox 360 and 2 bikes got stolen and she thinks i sold them for drugs, when in reality i put a guy in jail for stealing this stuff
when i say leave i mean come back every night, but i don't want to deal with my mom hurting me emotionally
i have tried to talk to her a number of times

she also said she is going to quit providing things for me, should/can i get a job? i am almost 16

Answer 1

Sorry, fishy story. If you really want to work things out with your mother, why don't you tell her the truth and get your act together. No one is going to hire a 15yr old for anything. You should be working on your education so that you can better yourself. Your mom is angry because you got rid of(for whatever reason) some very expensive things that she bought for you. How long did she have to work to provide those things for you? Say she makes $15 an hour and those things cost about $500. That means your mom had to work more than 4 days to pay for them and nothing else, like your food and the electricity you are using to use the computer you are typing on. Who paid for that?

I think your mom is scared for your future, frustrated with your irresponsibility and hurt that you aren't a better person. My guess is that while you aren't able to be honest and accept that you screwed up and try to seriously make amends, your mother is dying a slow death just waiting for you to get into more serious trouble. And you will because you don't think you have to do more than live off the back of your mother.

Talk is cheap, actions speak for themselves. Why should she talk to someone who is just going to make excuses and lie? You want to fix this, then own up to what you did and find a way to pay her back and get your act together. If you need help, ask her for it. Unfortunetly for her, she probably loves you with all her heart.

Answer 2

your mom is hurt, do you have a history of using drugs? If so you have to understand that she has her doubts. If not show her some kind of proof that a person was put in jail for stealing these items. Some where down the road your mother has lost faith in you, and it has to be something that you have done to cause that. Mothers just don't get fed up with their children over nothing. I'm sorry but I have a son that's done all of the same things and I can no longer trust him. I dealt with this for 9 years. And he doesn't seem to want to change.

Answer 3

legally, your mom has to provide you with food and shelter. You are only 16 yeard old, and by law you have to be under custody of a parent or a guardian. So luckily you are not 18 yet, so when she says that she is not providing you with anything. It might mean clothes, games, and all that other stuff. Also if you want to prove your mom wrong then you should go take a drug test.

Answer 4

If you put the guy in jail for stealing the stuff, then show your mom the police report that you would have had to file.
You and your mother are hurting each other- that is clear. It is hard to have mutual respect for one another unless you both allow love to prevail, and put down the weapons.

p.s. yes! get a job and buy your own toys from now on.

Answer 5

Try to evaluate yr actions in the past.Have u lied her or cheated her.However if yr self esteem is being hurted and u really want to be self sufficient toprotect ur position in the family, u can go for little part time jobs, likesalesman or somepetty jobs which u can do without affecting yr studies.Be determined.B'cause there is no comebackfrom this position.If u comeback,u will loose the rest of the position.

Answer 6

Look, I understand your mom's upset, but if you are taking care of yourself, staying clean and sober, and acting like a trustworthy person, she will come around. You can't stay around if she is going to put you down or call horrid names. What she said was hopefully in anger and frustration and not something she does all the time. If she regularly talks to you like that, I would strongly suggest getting counseling at school so you can build yourself some self-esteem, coping skills, and go on to have the great life you deserve. No parent should run their kids down. When they do, it is because they have issues of their own and not because something is wrong with the kid. She had no right talking to you like that.

I do agree that you need to avoid her if she's a destructive force in your life that brings you down. You need to get busy being happy, doing productive, constructive things that bring you up, give you pride in yourself and that work toward your happy future. Get a job, get a hobby, get in great shape, eat, sleep and take care of yourself. Do the right thing and be a person you can be proud of. Let her work out her own issues. Get out of there if it is destructive to you. Sounds like times are tough for you. I promise you can turn it around.

Answer 7

Time heals ..... When the dust settles ... and the emotions cool ...write her a note and explain it to her. Leave the note where she will read it, be sure to thank her for being strong enough to care for you ... or she would not have been so upset at what she thought you did ..... Folks who really care do get upset .... some times they express it poorly ....

She's trying to be the best Mom she can ... Try to be the best daughter you can .... it will work out.

Good Luck

Answer 8

if in reality you put the guy in jail for stealing the stuff you have a police report to leave on the table for her

Answer 9

I think you should stay at a friends house for a while and wait for her to cool off. Then when you feel that the time is right, go back to her end explain again the situation.

Answer 10

do what i do. I sleep during the day and wake up at night that way I avoid my whole family. ^_^