..but what can you do when you have a parent who drinks heavily every night and then takes on responsibilities that they should be sober for? My mother has a problem and I hate saying she's an alcoholic ( I hate that word ), but she has even admitted to it while she was intoxicated. She won't admit it while she's sober. My father died two years ago and ever since she's being heading down a bad road. My sisters and I have tried intervention, but it doesn't work with her. She doesn't think she has a problem. She is effecting our lives with it and at times will get into arguments where she will have had seven or eight glasses of wine and all logic escapes her completely. She becomes defensive and once that happens, all rationale goes out the window entirely.
2007-10-27 00:50:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
There is Al-Anon for family of alcoholics. If you are a minor that would be your best bet for now. Call AA their phone number is in your yellow pages and white pages.. talk to them and they might be able to get someone to talk to your Mom.. Mom's rarely talk to their children about deep setted problems and situations. Boys/Girls Town has a hot line for teens to call when they feel they have no one to talk to its on call 24/7, 1-800-448-3000.
2007-10-27 00:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. You don't mention how old you are, you sound mature, but at any age it's hard to see your mother going down this road and especially frightening if you're a kid still depending on your mother for basic human needs.
First of all, you are not responsible for your mother's drinking. It's not that your mother doesn't love you or care about you but that she's sick. You can always ask her to get help but that's all you can do--ask--she has to decide to get treatment.If you are younger, talk to your school counselor for resources to help you cope. If your mother is out of control, if you feel scared in any way, please call the police. Alcoholism is a disease of lies and so many times family makes excuses for the behavior and try to shield the addicted individual from the consequences of their actions and there are consequences. Remember, none of this sadness is your fault so try and be strong, brave, beautiful, and love yourself.
There's a link to Adult Children of Alcoholics and the one below is a song from Lucky Dube--'Slave' that is the best description of the hell alcoholism is--my dear, I have walked in your shoes and am still standing.
2007-10-27 01:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by Liberry-Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling my heart truly goes out to you and your loved ones.
By chance is their a way - if she drinks at a certain time every evening to take her out to a movie, theater, for a walk even to get her mind off the booze.
Unfortantely, there is nothing you and your sisters can do (alone) to help your mother realize her damaging ways.
Another suggestion is to schedule her for a counseling session either within your church or with a therapist so you and your sisters will be heard. You can make this appointment with out her and (if you drive) drive her there yourself - it may sound bad but that may be the only way.
God Bless you Darlings and remember we have to have the bad days to apprecaite the good ones.
2007-10-27 08:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Making a difference 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For any substance dependence, acknowledging the problem is the first step. After the problem has been acknowledged then, solving it will follow.
The way you describe it, you will need some sort of leverage to get things moving. You will need to decide, who among the people around you would be in the best position to help.
2007-10-27 01:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by alpheus18 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Al-Anon and Alateen are international organizations with a membership of more than half a million men, women and teens, providing a Twelve Step program of recovery for friends and family members of alcoholics. Al-Anon is for adult friends and family members of alcoholics whereas Alateen is for children and friends (ages 12 to 20) of alcoholics. Al-Anon was formed in 1951 by Lois Wilson, wife of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) co-founder Bill Wilson. She recognized the need for such an organization as family members living with AA members began to identify their own pathologies associated with their family members' alcoholism. Al-Anon is organized as a 501(c)(3) organization in many states.[1][2
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Al-Anon/Alateen
2007-10-27 01:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty young to be trying to handle this. Are there any other relatives that you could go to for help? Grandparents, aunts or uncles? Do you have any close friends whose parents you can talk to? Hard as that may be, you need help!
If you feel that there is a risk to you and your sisters, you may need to get them and yourself out of the house and stay with friends.
Praying for your mom and your family.
2007-10-27 00:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by SouthernGrits 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 22:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Al-Anon is really good. Maybe you can get another family membe to convince her she is not hurting just herself, but her kids too.
2007-10-27 00:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alanon for you and AA for the mom
2007-10-27 00:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋